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Step 1
Divorce- Three Steps to Feeling Better
Step One: Seek out a counselor you feel comfortable with. If you are the typical wife and mother, chances are you have not kept up with personal friendships. Your family became your focus – as it should be. Going through a divorce is a time when you will need all the support you can get. I highly recommend seeking some form of counseling to help you get through this tough time. You will want to have a rapport with this person. As difficult as it may be, you may need to visit several different counselors to find a fit. It will definitely be worth it. Chances are, if you are faced with a divorce the marriage wasn’t up to par anyway. You just were going through the daily routine, maybe feeling things weren’t quite right between you but hoping it would get better. This is a time when you most need someone to talk with. -
Step 2
Step Two: Reach out to other women who are going through a divorce.
Along with counseling this can be very beneficial to your well being. It is difficult to pick up the phone and call someone that may not be in your immediate circle, but it will be worth it. To talk with someone who has gone through it or is going through it now. You will be surprised at the support you will end up giving each other. -
Step 3
Step Three: Step out of your comfort zone! I can not stress this enough. Going places by yourself and even just saying the words "I am getting divorced" is very painful. But you will need to search out new activities and form new friendships in order for you to get your self esteem back. Initially you may feel uncomfortable, this is okay. You are doing things outside of your norm- outside of your comfort zone. Of course it will feel strange, but it will be moving in the right direction. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. You will survive!
