Things You'll Need:
- Angry Ex
- Compassion for the situation
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Step 1
Really take time to listen to their comments. Make eye contact and have a genuine communication with them to hear them out. It may not be what you agree on, but it does allow them to tell you how they feel about the situation.
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Step 2
Walk away when it becomes verbally abusive or the tension is uncomfortable. Knowing when to go or call a time out will allow both parties a chance to regroup and bring the situation to a close.
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Step 3
Don't take the talking personally. When we are in a situation where we have lots of emotion, sometimes we find that we go overboard saying things we don't necessarily mean or truly feel. Don't take this time personally so you don't walk away crushed.
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Step 4
Be compassionate but firm. Just because someone has an opinion, it doesn't mean you have to agree. So listen with your heart, make a decision with your mind and allow yourself the opportunity to be firm in your final outcome.
Comments
scribebob said
on 9/4/2009 A good friend of ours, Sally, had not been herself for several weeks. She seemed distracted, even frightened at times. She was receiving a lot of phone calls and they always seemed to put her into a deep funk.
I thought it was time to broach the subject and to find out if there was anything I could do to help. At first Sally was very reluctant to discuss the subject. Finally, she asked me one day if we could talk. I of course agreed and the story began to unfold.
It seems that she had an ex-boyfriend who she thinks is “connected” and he is extremely upset that she broke off the relationship they had. He had warned her that it was “not a wise decision” and that she should “rethink things in order to prevent any distasteful happenings.”
The warning concerned her, but she thought it was simply the comments of an embarrassed suitor who wanted to sound like a big shot. She was...