How to Talk to Girls You Don't Know

If you can make her laugh, you may get that date after all.

Every guy has been in the same position at some point in his life: He sees an attractive girl and wants to strike up a conversation, but he's just too afraid or nervous to waltz up and jump right in. The more beautiful the girl, the more difficult it is; but for a great many men, just talking to any girl he doesn't know can be an ordeal worse than giving a public speech. This need not be the case, however, because once you know a few rules of thumb, there is no girl in the world you can't approach.

Instructions

1. Approach the girl armed with one piece of knowledge above all else: The reason most guys are resistant to approaching a girl they don't know is because of the fear of rejection. Here is a little secret that will help you overcome that fear: If you are rejected, depending on your taste, there are at least 300 million other available women standing in line behind that girl who rejected you. The old chestnut that there are other fish in the sea really does apply. The chance that a girl you do not even know is the only one on Earth for you is statistically unimaginable. In other words, don't fear rejection; embrace the possibility of acceptance.

2. Learn the secret of confidence. The evolutionary imperative for men is to find attractive mates so physiology can take its course for the purpose of procreation. On the other hand, evolution has taught women to search for a mate who can protect and defend them. Civilization has flattened the sharp edges of evolution, but the remnants still remain. Most women are at least subconsciously looking for a guy who they believe will protect them from the modern versions of wild animals and psychotic cavemen. When walking up to talk to a girl, exude confidence. Walk with your shoulders back and look her in the eye as you approach. Talk without fumbling and mumbling, no matter how nervous you are.

3. Make a girl laugh; if you do so, you can get her to talk to you all night long. In study after study, women place a sense of humor near the top of the list of things they look for in a guy. Just don't confuse telling jokes with being funny. Making a girl laugh is more about peppering the conversation with witty observations than telling jokes. You must learn to integrate your humor into the flow of conversation by making funny remarks about what she says and humorous comments about your surroundings.

4. Acknowledge that complimenting a girl you don't know is a great way to break the ice; but be original. There isn't a girl in the world who hasn't heard how pretty her eyes are or what great hair she has. Generally, it's not a good idea to compliment certain body parts, but let the situation guide you. Be creative. Approaching after you have heard her laugh gives you the perfect opportunity to tell her what a great laugh she has, but be sure to have something funny to follow it up with so you get her to laugh again. Comparing a girl to a great beauty can be dicey; you don't want to tell a girl she looks like a certain celebrity if she thinks that celebrity isn't attractive.

5. Act like a gentleman and show a lot of class. While it is true that there's a girl out there for every guy and deviant behavior is all around, the odds are in your favor if you act like a nice guy instead of a total jerk. A gentleman isn't crass or crude, and he treats a girl with respect. The odds are also in your favor that a healthy helping of the guys who have approached this girl in the past were less than classy, so you have that going for you. These days, a guy who actually treats a girl as a human being instead of an object is going to seem like a rare jewel. Besides, you should simply treat girls with respect naturally, whether you want to approach them or not.

Tips & Warnings

• Talking to a girl you don't know may seem awkward at first, but it becomes easier with each encounter.

• If a girl isn't interested, move on.