How to Overcome Obstacles to Sex

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

TV
Arguments
Kids
Food
Jobs

Step 1

don't throw out your TV..just take it out of the bedroom

TELEVISION. Did you know that having a TV in your bedroom is detrimental towards your sex life? Just as television provides us with entertainment through dinner and family time, it can be just as much as a distraction in the bedroom. So verdict: Don’t have a TV in your bedroom (you’ll stay entertained without it)
Step 2

arguing...WOW!

ARGUING. I’m not talking about those big fights (those have to happen whether you like it or not). I’m talking about the little things that seem to be eternally disputed (such as who does the dishes tonight, putting the kids to bed, etc). Just try to remember that arguing about little things will decrease your mental capacity for sex. In addition, try to let yourself know that not everything must be discussed. Just find a solution, and forget about it!
Step 3

life's joy..relationship barriers

KIDS, KIDS, KIDS. As children constantly draining the energy of each parent, it’s no wonder that getting intimate gets so difficult. Your solution: A night out, kid swap with neighbors, or coming home during the middle of the day (when the kids are at school). Although being spontaneous is awesome, planning your moments is mandatory.
Step 4

that busy schedule is killing me..

BUSY SCHEDULES. Everyone leads hectic lives, leaving us pretty much exhausted. So can you really exert extra energy for sex? You gotta change your routine. Incorporate exercise/gym time together early in the week (Monday or Tuesday). This should boast your libido, as exercise improves circulation and confidence. And getting that romp earlier in the week can keep you energized for most of the week.
Step 5

clean the dishes together = romantic

SHARE A HOME-COOKED MEAL. Don’t you just love it when your girlfriend or wife makes a delicious meal just for you? Obviously that good feeling is just as amazing if you were the cook, and she was the one being served. Also share the meal. It’ll increase your interaction at the table, sparkle the intensity, and (if all goes well) continue well after the meal is done.
Step 6

change up your routines..IT'S A MUST.

BED BOREDOM. Remember when the relationship was young? Remember how playful you used to be? Just as important in the beginning of the relationship as in the marriage, having fun is very necessary. Keep humor in your daily rituals. All these factors are very influential towards a good sex life. And definitely a good way to keep boredom (a common cause of sexual dissatisfaction) away.
Step 7

not everything has to be planned..be spontaneous

PREDICTABILITY. Similar to Boredom, this would be doing the same thing and following the same routine every week. It’s also a good bet that this behavior leads to the “same old” stuff in the bedroom. So MIX IT UP! Introduce new stuff to the bedroom life. Change up your daily rituals, such as a surprise romantic dinner, or showing up unexpectedly to sweep her off her feet. You can even do different things in your life to keep yourself happy. Because how you feel definitely makes a transition to the sex life. Remember, as we said earlier, spontaneity is always good.
Step 8

we all know that feeling...

STRESSED OUT AT WORK? Obviously everyone can relate. A high powered job can actually boast your libido from the extra testosterone you get from competition. However when it begins to affect your sex life, this may be a warning sign – not only for your bedroom activities but your health as well. The change has to be done in the work environment. Talk to your boss about lessening your schedule. Try taking some of that sick/holiday time. Make the little adjustments until you see an improvement.
Step 9

self image is very important

HER BODY IMAGE. Self Image is the pride/curse of all human beings. And psychologically, it can make or break your sex life. So compliment. If you think your girlfriend/wife looks sexy, say it. Especially when it’s “out of the blue”. You get extra points because the compliment is just to make her feel good. Plus it coincides with the naughty thoughts flying through your head anyways. Makes her feel sexy all day long; allows you to be honest with your daydreams. A win-win for the both of you.
Step 10

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HER CLOTHES. Similar to Her Body Image, Clothing is like makeup to a woman’s self image. If she’s self conscious about the way she looks, having her dress sexy for you may take some coaxing. Start slowly. She needs to feel sexy in something more comfortable before she can wear sexy uncomfortable stuff. Gently guide her into the tank tops, and girly boxers. Compliment her on how you like the look, so she builds confidence. It may take some time, but the end results are worth the wait. At the same time, your attire matters too. Change your outfits sometimes (wear boxer briefs one day and boxer shorts the next). Your confidence can definitely influence hers as well.

Comments

slphilbrick said

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on 3/19/2009 Excellent tips for enhancing the sexual relationship !

goodselfme said

on 2/28/2009 good ideas to remember especially no TV in bedroom. 5* and a recommend for a great post.

bethjess39564 said

on 2/8/2009 This article is absolutely true and I recite tip #1 to so many people. No TV in the bedroom--ever, no way, no how. Great artcle, very well written. 5*