How to Reject Rejection

Been rejected? Do not despair. I've been rejected too. And so has she. And he. And every other human being who has ever taken a step and a breath. Rejection hurts, but it will only be the end of you if you allow it to be. The next time you get rejected, reject it! Follow these tips to learn how.

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Instructions

1. Say, "It's not me. It's you." If a person treats you poorly, if an employer doesn't hire you, it says more about their character and lack of good judgment than it does about you.

2. Write a rejection letter to your rejecter. The point is not to mail the letter, but to get your anger, sadness and despair off your mind.

3. Make a list of your strong points and read it out loud. Honestly, do it! It will keep you from staying stuck in self-pity and grief and help you get moving again.

4. Search for people who understand and see your beauty, your talent, your worth. A literary agent once told me that the worst thing an aspiring author can do is to seek constructive feedback from an agent who rejected his or her work. "If I reject someone's work, it's because I don't 'get' it," she said. "It'd better for a writer to ask for feedback from somebody who likes their work." I agree. If somebody doesn't "get" you, move along. Eventually somebody will.

5. Take to heart only what you can learn from the rejection. Forget everything else.

6. Vow to get rejected again soon. The more you get rejected, the easier you'll take it, and the closer you get to success. If you're being rejected, it's a sign that you're taking risks.

[tawfik]

on 5/19/2009 beautiful!

[MyJB]

on 2/9/2009 I liked this article.

[Smireles]

on 2/9/2009 Great tips. Helpful.