How to Save Your Marriage With A Gamer Spouse

Sometimes being able to save your marriage is more about the little things. When you have a spouse who loves to play video games it is sometimes frustrating. There are ways save marriage even if you are dealing with a gamer spouse.

Instructions

1. Game with him/her. Some people cannot get past the idea that video games are childish and a waste of time. But have you ever considered trying it too? You might find that you actually enjoy it and it will give you one more activity to enjoy together. One of the first steps to take to save your marriage, is finding activities you enjoy doing together.

2. Watch your spouse play. If you just cannot bring yourself to play the games, why not spend some time watching your spouse play them? Not only are you spending time together, but your spouse will appreciate your interest. You might even find it interesting or learn what drives your spouse to enjoy gaming so much. Saving your marriage is less about you and more about your partner. If you take an interest in their interests, you will find they will do the same.

3. Be sensitive to his/her feelings. Just because you may not enjoy gaming, doesn't mean your spouse doesn't. Constantly criticizing their gaming habits or complaining about it will only drive a wedge between you. One of the biggest keys to being able to save your marriage is the ability to accept the differences between the two of you.

4. Keep it cool. When your spouse is still sitting at the computer or console 3 hours after you have gone to bed, remind yourself that at least he's home. He's not out partying or drinking. He is home, with you and he is content.

Tips & Warnings

• Try talking to your spouse about your feelings on the subject. Explain that you are feeling left out and would like to be included.

• Agree with your spouse that certain times or certain days are set aside for together time.

• Remember, just because he loves to play games, does not mean he doesn't love you. You will find a much more attentive spouse if you show some understanding towards the hobby he enjoys.

• Don't spend together time criticizing his game time. All he will hear is that you are not going to let him enjoy his hobby and he will resent you for it.

• Nagging and jealousy will drive you further apart, instead try honest and open communication on the subject.