How to Argue in a Relationship

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By ctgenie99
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Argue in a Relationship

Everybody argues, but what is your outcome usually like? Do you not always feel better once the argument ends? Maybe it wasn't a fair fight...

Difficulty: Easy

Instructions

Step 1

Breath in...and...out. It's hard enough to try to fight fair with your significant other! If you feel like you are about to blow up and scream your head off, step out of the room. It will probably be the hardest thing to do when you are already heated up. But you know what? It's proving to yourself and your partner that you can handle solving a disagreement rather than fighting tool and nail about it.
Step 2

Think before you speak...ok now that you know what you want to say...say it nice and if you can't then don't say it at all. And that doesn't mean if you think someone is a jerk you say, "I think you are the biggest jerk in the world," in the nicest tone ever. Think, you want to end this argument peacefully right? So when the fight gets to be too much tell your partner I need to step out of the room for a minute and clear my head. I don't want to argue I want to do this peacefully, let's DISCUSS this when we are both a little more calm." Use "discuss" not "argue."
Step 3

Try to find common ground. Do you ever notice how when you argue, nothing gets resolved? This is probably because you two are so busy yelling your point that you can't even HEAR the the other person's point of view! So by sitting down and calmly talking it out you can not only listen to your partner, but you may even learn something too.
Step 4

Let it go when it's done. After you are finished arguing and you have reached a conclusion than laugh it off. The best thing you can do after is admit that it was a silly fight and that you are glad it is over. This re-establishes your connection with your partner and letting a fight go is a GOOD THING.