How to Avoid Situations that Lead to Cheating

He smiles at you from a distance, introduces himself, befriends you gradually with helpful advice, and you already been to dinner with him more than once. You like him, but you are in a relationship. She offers to get lunch, tells you the latest happenings at the office, is always available when you need her, and listens to you complain about your wife. What's happening here?

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Self Control
• Things to change on the homefront
• More to do at work

1. First, ask yourself if your partner was doing what you are doing, would you have a problem with it? If the answer is "no", then tell her what you have been doing and see for yourself.

2. Next, talk with the person who has been sending you messages that they want more than just a work relationship. They may just be the very friendly type then again they may not. Reiterate that you are in a relationship and would prefer to keep it professional.

3. Find less time to socialize on the job and more time to get your work done during the day so that you are not working late hours with this person or using "working late" as an excuse to talk with he or she.

4. Take your concerns about the relationship to your partner not your friend. Too often people in relationships make the mistake of talking to everyone, but the one at home about relationship concerns. Even if your partner makes up alot of excuses as to why you two haven't been communicating, going places, or doing other things, you boldly let he or she know that they are pushing you out the door slowly but surely and you rather not be in the relationship by yourself.

Tips & Warnings

• If you find yourself being quiet or thinking of things to say when he or she asks you a question or blantantly lying to your partner about where you have been going and what you have been doing then your not innocent and you need to do what you can to make things right again.
• Your partner may find out the truth and call it quits by the time you fix things.
• Your friend who you have been spending time with may become jealous and do things on purpose to hurt or expose you.

Resources

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on 1/15/2009 I never talk to family or friends about my relationships. I think if things are good, they'll know from your expression and mannerism. I think if it is bad, they'll know from expression and mannerism. If it is bad, only you and your partner can fix it. Leave the 3rd wheels out of it.