How to Deal With A Breakup

Dealing with a breakup is a very tough thing to have to go through.

But if you do the *right* things, you can get through it much faster.

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Determination
• To Be Willing To Go Against The Grain

1. It’s extremely important that you give yourself a chance to think about YOU. Though it can be extremely tough, it's the only way you'll be able to give yourself the strength to get back on track.

2. Don't Call. Being away is extremely painful at first so it may seem like you'll feel better if you just talk to your ex. DON'T DO IT.
   
   Especially if it has only been a short while since the breakup. This is an emotional time for both of you, and when two sets of emotions clash during a conflict, it can do much more damage than good.
   
   Allow yourselves time to *even out* a bit before attempting contact.

3. Keep good contact and relationships with those you’re closest to, and allow your ex to do the same with the others.
   
   This can be painful, but it’s easiest on everyone because they don’t have to choose who to be loyal to and who to avoid.
   
   It's tough when you have mutual friends, but this will ease things for everyone.

4. Accept the breakup, even if it wasn't your decision. ESPECIALLY if it wasn't your decision!
   
   By doing so, you show your ex that you are mature, can be independant, and are not needy.
   
   By being active with your friends and going out and meeting people, you create a new confidence for yourself automatically, that will make things much easier to deal with, and keep your mind off of.

Tips & Warnings

• Start Exercising
• Look Your Best
• Go Shopping
• See Your Friends
• Go Out
• Do Things YOU Want To Do
• Live Your Life!
• Drunk Dialing Is Bad
• Constantly Calling or Texting Is Bad
• Staying In The House All Day And Moping
• Thinking About The Past
• Thinking About It Like You Have Control Over What Happens - The only thing you have control over now, is YOU - Treat Yourself Right!

Resources

• Dealing With Break Ups

[hlthychoclitnut]

on 1/17/2009 good tips for a break up!

[justmeboy22]

on 1/11/2009 great article!! 5*, most people get only drunk to deal with things, and that is not the only way..good job

[digidi]

on 1/11/2009 I liked the drunk dialing tip!

[breakupguru]

on 1/9/2009 Yes CatherineAnne me too! Dealing with a breakup is one of the most painful things anyone has to deal with in their lives.

Hopefully these tips will help those going through it right now.

Thanks for the kind words everyone!

[MrZipper]

on 1/9/2009 Great article, and very good advice. Thanks for sharing!