How to Live Together Before a Divorce

A Divorce can be a very costly agreement. And in tones of economical uncertainty, it may be an agreement that must be put off until it becomes an affordable option. Here are some tips to live amicably until the day.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• 2 heated lovers
• unhappiness
• not enough money

1. 
   setting rules is important

   Set rules for living arrangements. This includes: chores, money contributions and exclusive children times (since spending together time with children can lead to more arguments)

2. 
   use these rules to avoid BIG arguments

   Impose Argument Rules. These rules may be very hard to follow but MUST be followed to keep life bearable. Some of these rules should include: prohibiting of past events, past conflicts, cursing and defamatory name calling.

3. 
   don't flaunt in front of you ex.

   DON'T PATRONIZE ME! This especially means showing off your date in front of your ex. Doing that is definitely provoking the anger of an ensuing argument.

4. 
   keep the children out of it

   Keep the Children out of it. Young children are always most adversely affected by divorce. They take every parent argument to heart as their own doing. So avoid arguing in front of them.

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   ADDITIONAL TIPS. Do you have more suggestions? Do you have additional strategies that have not been mentioned? By all means, please leave a comment with your ideas and suggestions. I'd love to hear from you.

Tips & Warnings

• Concentrate/Dedicate yourself to following step 2
• Make sure the children understand it isn't their fault
• (When You Must)Pretend to be a family to benefit the kids
• Try to keep away from each other to avoid major arguments
• Once a child has been emotionally/physically/psychologically damaged by divorce, there is no way to fix it. And IF it ever is fixed, it may take years.

Resources

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[Miragi]

on 1/18/2009 Hopefully something I won't ever have to do....but great advice for those in that unfortunate situation. 5*****

[RachelB]

on 1/8/2009 This is very helpful advice, especially given the current economic climate when many divorcing couples may need to live under the same roof for significant periods of time. Great work!
RachelB

[bar10dr98]

on 1/6/2009 Excellent advice, thanks!

[Gardengates]

on 1/6/2009 Not an easy thing to do, living together before a divorce. Good tips to make a tough situation more doable.

[slphilbrick]

on 1/6/2009 A very real dilemma for many going through divorce. Well spoken, Wes ! 5*