How to Give an Apology

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Give an Apology

Wouldn't it be nice if we were right all the time, and were always understood, never hurting a soul in the process of our processes? Sometimes we yet to see how wrong we really are, hurting people we never meant to hurt. And now we feel ashamed and embarrassed, our foot may have been eaten, and swallowed.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

a humble heart
patience

Step 1

Don't let your pride get in the way, fence your thoughts and be prepared for a confrontation of your wrong doing. Do not deny yourself the release that a humble apology can give. It is quit tempting to articulate your reasons for offending, which will only make your sincerity questionable.
Step 2

It can be of much courage to confront the offended party face to face. It takes a certain amount of shame and humility to humble yourself enough to give just that. But depending on the offense it may be the best and most effective approach.
Step 3

If the straight forward approach is unattainable for any reason, try writing a sincere letter, stating that you acknowledge your wrong, without excuses of any kind. For example:"I know I should have called you, but I was too busy." Leave out the excuse "I was to busy" ,sounds like you are too busy for the offended party and the apology may not ride so well.
Step 4

Ask for forgiveness: After you have acknowledged that you have wronged this individual, let them have the baton, give them the power to forgive, place the ball in there court and let them decide. Sometimes depending on the relationship, and the offense, it could take awhile. Give them time without persisting. Give them the respect you would have one give to you.
Step 5

For most, receiving the apology isn't nearly as daunting as giving one. It can be a real nail biting experience. Just try to treat others the way that you would want to be treated and talk with people about there feelings. Acknowledging ones thoughts and differences. We are all so different, and that is a good thing. Though Our differences can lead to broken lines of communication and misunderstandings, and that's okay too. Its a part of life and humbling yourself enough to give an apology can help build your character and save relationships.

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onlyhoney4u said

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on 1/31/2009 Great article love it so much 5 Stars*****

walker7 said

on 1/10/2009 Wonderful advice!

newmama said

on 1/7/2009 What a wonderful article. More people need to learn to sincerely apologize. I have had to work on it. It's easy to say "I'm sorry" but not so easy to truly offer a heartfelt apology. Lots of times actions speak louder than words and it's what you do after that apology that says "I'm sorry."