How to Approach Your Spouse About Losing Weight

When you took your vows, you took them for better or for worse, right? Well there is a time in most marriages that one or the other gains a little weight (this it the worse part for some), I call this the “married, fat and happy” stage. Really, you get married and gone are all of the worries of trying to snag one another and you basically just get comfortable and the weight creeps on.

So how to you approach your spouse when the weight becomes a little too much? Read the following article on ways to approach the subject gently.

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Love
• Tact
• Encouragement

1. 
   Don't say it!

   Whatever you do, do NOT EVER say the F-word. I mean it, unless you want to get divorced, never ever say “fat” in any way shape or form. Most people know they have gained a little weight, it’s not like they have a magic mirror that shows a totally different person.

2. 
   Couple

   If your spouse makes a comment about their weight, talk about how you want to start eating healthier, don’t say you want to lose weight, because then that will focus on the pounds and you just might get the “Oh, so you think I’m fat” response. Offer suggestions on how you both could start by going to the grocery store to stock up on healthier foods, or maybe join a gym together or maybe just taking a walk together. If you show that you are in it with them, it will be easier for them to follow through. Dieting alone is the single hardest thing to do, support is everything. Be supportive!

3. 
   Healthy Snacks

   Don’t be a diet cop, if your spouse is on a diet, don’t watch them like they are committing a crime every time they head for the fridge. Making comments can sometimes make a person feel spiteful and they will end up eating more. The best way around this is to get rid of all of the bad snacks together and fill the refrigerator and cabinets with a bunch of healthier snacks. You have to follow through as well, you can’t be sneaking a pizza while they are eating rice cakes.

4. 
   Happy and Healthy Couple

   The last tip is to just support, support, support them. Show them how much you love them, encourage them and offer lots of compliments. The better someone feels, the more motivation they will have to carry on.

Resources

• The Couples' Diet - Book - Cheap!

[MotherDove]

on 2/17/2009 Oh, this is a hot topic! My husband nags at me to gain weight and I make smart cracks about his "expanding horizon"! Neither are effective (or very nice!) I will take your well-written article to heart and follow your sound (and loving) advice. Thank you!

[kfrazier]

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[LissaK]

on 2/15/2009 Support: number one thing right there. Also, I totally agree, saying the "F" word is a huge no-no unless one wants to see some divorce papers or get in a real bad fight!

[yourmamasaidwha]

on 1/28/2009 great advice, this has to be one of the hardest things to bring up with someone you love.

[Miri]

on 1/22/2009 Good thought. Being kind instead of being the diet cop is very good advice. It's always treat them how you want to be treated. I enjoy your writing.