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Step 1
Stop trying to copy other people's romantic gestures. If you didn't think of it yourself, it's not romantic. If your girlfriend tells you about how her friend's husband bought her a dozen yellow carnations, don't go out and do the same thing. It will mean nothing. The entire point of being romantic is to make a very personal gesture.
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Step 2
Forget about cliche romance. A dozen roses and a box of chocolates have largely lost their meaning. They require no thought and little planning. These days florists have easy packages of flowers, candy and a teddy bear to go with them. These are not romantic.
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Step 3
Use what you know about your wife or girlfriend to make a romantic gesture. It doesn't have to be buying something. It doesn't have to be a grand gesture that you plan out in advance. Simply use what you know about her to say or do something that is meaningful. Writing her a deeply-felt romantic letter is a winner. Giving up something ugly in the home that you know she hates is a romantic gesture. Giving her the umbrella and getting yourself wet because you know she can't stand her hair getting wet is a romantic gesture. Giving her a sincere compliment about something you know she has worked hard on is romantic. Tell her that her dinner was well-planned and tasted great. Tell her that her sales pitch was so perfect that she could probably sell things to the Sham Wow guy if she wanted. Those are the romantic things that make relationships work. That's what she will keep in mind when she sees your gross socks on the floor and the way you can't seem to remember anyone's birthday.
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SDKP said
on 4/20/2009 I'd bet cash that the one-star rating is from a man. Sorry to tell you things that you don't want to hear, but this is the truth. If you knew better, you probably wouldn't have gone to the Internet to figure out how to be romantic.