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Step 1
The first and most important step is to maintain your composure. When your ex takes your child, or refuses to give your child back, the first thing you want to do is kill them - obviously. That is the LAST thing you need to do. REMEMBER that your child NEEDS you and LOVES you and if you are in JAIL you are no good to your child. Keep calm and remain polite, no matter WHAT. Never say anything incriminating - not on the phone, in person, through texts, or emails. Kill them with kindness. This really works.
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Step 2
Be prepared. If you are facing a court battle, you want to show up with your ducks in a row. Get all paperwork that you will need. Phone records, doctors' records, counseling notes, etc. Show that you have had your child and your ex has not, and show this has been a continuous pattern. If your ex has a criminal past or drug history, get copies of all paperwork showing this. This can ONLY work to your advantage here!!
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Step 3
Get your child into counseling. The counselor can report everything to the court. This will work in your favor if your child belongs with you. Do NOT coach your child to say anything. The counselor, as well as the courts, will see through this. Tell your child to TELL THE TRUTH, and nothing more or less.
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Step 4
Don't lose hope, and never give up. Sometimes court battles are long and drawn out. They can drain your bank account, and you might not see the light at the end of the tunnel... but it is ALWAYS there. Never, ever give up. Remember you have the best interest of your child in mind, and giving up is NOT AN OPTION. Keep going until you can't go anymore.
Comments
j4ckl said
on 11/12/2009 What do I do If I have no money what so ever for a lawer but would like to continue to take my ex whom I was never married to back to court to get shared parenting with my daughter..
PegH said
on 10/7/2009 great article, very informative!!
504fireboy said
on 9/15/2009 love the advice thks
NightowlMama said
on 1/11/2009 good article tough subject to write about