Things You'll Need:
- Kind Words
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Step 1
Do not say any of the following very common things: "You will get pregnant or have another baby again," "It was just not meant to be," "There was something probably wrong with the baby," or "It was really early, it wasn't really a baby yet." Yes, all of these things are said very often. As true or untrue some of these statements are they are just hurtful. They are like a knife stabbing a grieving mother in the stomach. Just do not say it!
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Step 2
Find a way to help out. Offer to make dinner one night, do a load of laundry, or just bake a chocolate cake. If the family has other children offer to take them out for ice cream so mom can be alone.
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Step 3
Most importantly just listen. Lend a shoulder to cry on. Allow the person to grieve as long as they need. A miscarriage is a hard thing to deal with. There is not a time limit on the grieving process. If you think the person needs to see a doctor or counselor gently suggest it.
Comments
NightowlMama said
on 1/14/2009 Tears...7 miscarriages here .NOT easy to deal with. Sometimes a hug is all we need
jonandshan said
on 1/3/2009 This is extremely painful. I've watched several friends go through it. This is an excellent article. Thanks.
mellybrace said
on 1/1/2009 Thank you for the advice. I have always wondered how to comfort someone in this area as I just have never experienced it myself but have had others close to me who have.
leanan said
on 12/31/2008 Very caring article. My sster has been through a few and it is very hard. Thank you for this article!
brantsbabe said
on 12/31/2008 Very good advise, it's a very emotionally wrenching experience, I had one several years ago and it was very difficult. But God is in control, and He blessed me with 2 more children after the miscarriage.