How to Attract Friends and Be Liked

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By lorenelio
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Change in my life came after applying the teachings and secrets that I am about to reveal to you I use in my own life. I am student of life's teachings in all aspects. My teachings are a condensed version of experiences, encounters, lessons and action plans that are put together in an easy to use manual.

I am committed to transforming my clients to start living their life to the fullest!

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

Patience
Interest
Cooperation
Understanding
Enthusiasim

Step 1

A Well Balanced Lifestyle

Learning To Be Liked

When you're with people, do you talk about yourself, or do you ask them questions about themselves? Do your friends talk about themselves or do they ask you questions wanting to know about you?

These are two very important questions you have to ask yourself. Why? Because it will make you aware of who is most important to you. The majority of people are not interested in you. They are interested in themselves. Many years ago, the New York Telephone Company made a detailed study on telephone conversations to find out which word is the most frequently used. It is the personal pronoun "I".
Step 2

Alfred Alder, a famous Viennese psychologist wrote a book entitled "What Life Should Mean To You". There is an interesting paragraph in this book that reads, "It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow man that has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring". You might want to write this quote down on a 3" x 4" card and once a week sit down and read it aloud.

If you practice patience in your conversations with people, you will discover that you can win the attention, time and cooperation of even the most self-absorbed people by simply becoming genuinely interested in them.

If we want to make friends, let's put ourselves out of our personal comfort zone and do things for other people, things that require patience, time, understanding, unselfishness and thoughtfulness. Greet people with animation and enthusiasm. Remember birthdays; send cards on holidays and special occasions. All these small gestures will add up to an incredibly warm and fun experience, where people will want you in their company and miss you when you're not.

This show of interest, as with every other principle of human relations must be sincere. It must pay off, not only for the person showing interest, but also for the person receiving these warm sincere gestures. It's a two way street where both parties will warmly benefit.
Step 3

If you want others to like your company and to look forward to being with you, you'll need to develop real and rewarding friendships. If you want to be helpful to others and in return help yourself, there is one principle to keep in mind: "Become genuinely interested in other people and you will reap the rewards of real friendships".

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lighthouse1958 said

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on 7/1/2009 All of your information is so true. People like to talk about themselves. I have put into practice to let the other person talk and this does work. Great article. 5* and rec.

kskaggs said

on 1/20/2009 Thank You for this great article!

lorenelio said

on 1/2/2009 Hi Andre:
I am new at this process. Friends told me I should put a sight together to help people with challenges they may have seeing as where I had come from myself. I just wanted to thank you for your kinf comments.
Loren