How to Cope with Divorce

Most people don't enter into a marriage with the forward thinking that it may someday all come to an end. But, sometimes things just don't work out. This 'How-To' is for those who are trying to cope with divorce.

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• An Open Mind
• Optimism

1. Create a support system. It's so important that you have friends and family around to support you while going through the process of a divorce. You shouldn't go this alone. It also doesn't hurt to consider a counselor - they are a non-baised party and often time, employee benefits cover this type of therapy. Last but not least, a pet can be soothing during times of need - remember, they will alwayslove you unconditionally.

2. Cry, and laugh, and then cry some more. Research has shown that crying releases stress hormones. Have you ever noticed how you feel better once you get a good cry out and over with? Crying enables you to release feelings of grief as well as joy. On the flip side, laughter can be the best medicine, as the cliche says. You may think that you'll never be able to laugh again, but when you finally do, you'll know that the healing process is working.

3. Start a personal journal. Ending a marriage is difficult not only in the aspect that you're no longer with someone that you may have been with for quite a long time; but, you have to figure out who it is that you are as a single entity. Not everyone loses themselves in a marriage but it's always important to take time out to understand more about yourself and what it is that makes you tick.

Tips & Warnings

• If friends and family try to interject unwanted opinions, tell them that you really just need someone to listen, instead of talking.
• Take things slow, in all of life's aspects. You don't want to jump to quickly into something that you are not emotionally ready for.

[Loretta1]

on 12/15/2008 It takes alot of courage and strength to make that decision to move on when it's not working. It's never easy!!!!!

[DSwider]

on 12/15/2008 This is great info. I am proud of you for being the strong woman you are!