Things You'll Need:
- to have a younger male who looks to you for guidance.
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Step 1
DEMAND respect from him for his mother. Period. Most single dads are not in the life of a son daily. It is imperative that you find ways to insure that your son respects his mother for authority when you are not around.
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Step 2
BE AN EXAMPLE OF PRIDE. When you see your son, you are not going to benefit him making strong decisions about taking care of himself by being intoxicated in any way when you see him or becoming drunk while you to are having alone time. Don't pick up your son smelling of beer, alcohol and or reeking of marijuana. This is not a good example of someone your son should look up to as an authority figure or fair for him to want to grow up and emulate. Not only does it signal that you are just part of a "the crew", it also signals that it is what it takes to be a man, which it does not. Consider to that stopping your alone time with him to have a few beers and or roll a few joints just tells the child, they are now third or fourth in your life too. Let him make his own decisions of whether he wants to indulge in these habits without your influence to do so. Likewise when he is a teenager, please don't make the mistake to smoke and or drink with him. Anyway, it is considered child abuse.
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Step 3
DON'T SHOUT OUT TO A WOMAN about her body parts when you are with your son. Making sexual statements suggests to a son or younger male that a woman represents only physical appeal or in the case of this example only being a sexual object. This type of example is unfair to his own personal growth of respecting himself and females as separate intelligent beings.
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Step 4
TEACH your son about being spiritual, productive and creative. It should be stressed that he learn about his biology and the biology of woman in a scientific way. Make sure he learns to respect nature and care about life and the life of others. Teach him not to waste time with not learning something new about life and himself daily and see to it that he enforces any natural creativity that may become a trade for adding to his financial independence too.
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Step 5
REMEMBER that money isn't everything. If you find that almost always when you are with your son that it has to do with buying something for him and spending alot of money, stop. A young boy who is not with you all the time will benefit from you better and in his own dealings with woman and his own children if he doesn't associate with being a father that money is the most important or only thing a dad has to offer.
Comments
flor2729 said
on 12/11/2008 Excellent advice for singles dad to take into consideration. You focused on some key points.
bmerritt said
on 12/6/2008 Good points. For any dad to consider - even if they are not single fathers.
Psychstudent said
on 12/6/2008 Something that all men single or not nee to read!!! Great tips! Thanks so much for putting it out there. Dada are just as important as moms and their kids need them 110%
DaniaDenise said
on 12/5/2008 Many single dads should read this article! Good work!
dasbootjoe said
on 12/5/2008 Great advice! Nice work*****