How to Never lose "control" ( Over your teens)

Want to keep your angel an angel..While going throw the growing up steps...Then you must do your part...See some Tips...

Difficulty: Easy

Instructions

1. One factor their has to be a level of control ("not words" things)
   Find ‘or" give something that is really wanted (example) make-up! OK it is a privilege" NOT" a must have, so it needs to stayed earned.

2. 

   POINT: Bosses Vs employee” will have respect or do what is told do to the factor boss has their pay check” control factor:

3. This will show teen just because you have it you must keep it. Just like real life. Say they are at work and lack off" "then either they will get fired or pay cut.. Then they cannot pay bills.
   
   Teach them school is like a job.’ Therefore, grades are job raises and missing assignment are deduction. That will relate to be fired. Meaning in the hole, no lights paid no rent so on……( so must take away thing that they really want or must use everyday)

4. 

   PROBLEM: If Teen has a real smart mouth then they loose that tool for one day. But first give "warning" if they do not change "tone" then Tell what the consequence will be….
   "YOU" will see a change quick.. OK important factor you must follow throw to let them know you are serious…You can use this in every area and for everything!

5. !!!! WARNING""", if having a problem is more to do with a bigger different factor...Then this will only work in others area , until you solve this problem....read below!!

6. "Very important Note": You need to make your child feel that you are proud of them and see if "problem" might be related to school!!! If child is having problems with schoolwork !! IT will show in their attitude and in their grade …..(Distant, away from family, avoiding home work…or angry….hates the world…..NOTE:..( No uses if child feels there's no hope any way)

7. WHERE TO FIND ANSWER !!YOU !! can ‘Find it to be as simple as going back and reviewing or basic reading, needing help in comprehension …

8. ( see if a child thinks it is to hard and can not over look that factor..( then they Have no hope) But once learned it will open how easy it really is….. REVIEW".. work break it down make it easier and keep telling them everything is hard at first …. Keep repeating step until child get it no matter how big the battle is! It will all be worth it)…. This also show teen when a family member is down, WE' all are and we will find the answer together…..plus when child gets back on top watch them grow and stay on top happily!…

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   NOTE: when in high school courses can go fast and once in the hole it is real hard to pull out… your kid could be drowning!!.. help them….

10. VERY IMPORTAINT NOTE: If child will not take advice to do school work and you cant handle the battle... "then find some one who can" (teens will lesson to some one else before taking the advice of parent)...
    
    Don’t take it personal they feel they are in competition with you…. They will grow out of it… Get to the real point making your child feel good about themselves with confidence....And know you will not give up ..You will find a solution ...Because they are worth it...

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    OK that is fix: does your child feel good about them self: esteem…. find out.. Fix it…... Again while solving problems use your new control to keep everything under control….
    
    If you do not know child "interest" in what is wanted or must be use every day... then find out! You need this for some control in your favor, so you can keep control over situation….and-solving problems….

12. LAST NOTE: Always give rewards to all things good… do not give in to negativity.. compliment constantly keep reinforcing you believe in them…
    
    RIGHT' now you first need to be the "parent" BEST friends will come when their about 20!... Need more advice contact me….

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    !!Whatever they do you are responsible for…and you must "not give" too much freedom so early "it is Really bad"!! And if you do!! And you don't have some control factor: (before they think their all grown up and know everything) your family will be torn apart.. GET SOME AND FAST... , "In my studies, I have seen this to often and once control is completely gone!! SO IS YOUR CHILD........….

14. Your tool is everything child will die with out...make-up, phone,hair products, going some where, use your imagination and see what means more then life with your child....keep your family together and watch them grow in to responsible and happy adults....

[Geargirl113]

on 12/6/2008 Great tips.

[Must-Be-Told]

on 12/3/2008 You have taken your family this far take them all the way