How to Get Someone to Like You Romantically

Romantic attraction is all about energy - set the stage and let the flames ignite. If the person doesn't like you at all from the beginning, however, you will most likely waste your time. There has to be some kind of connection that you can use to build on.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

1. Love yourself - and show it, using body language: Sit up straight, make eye contact and shake hands firmly. There's nothing sexier than self-confidence.

2. Be approachable. Again, here's where body language can help - face the person with your arms uncrossed, make eye contact and smile with sincerity.

3. Plant some romantic seeds - put the idea of romance in his or her head without being too obvious. For instance, do thoughtful things for your soon-to-be suitor to show that you are going out of your way for him or her; listen with your whole heart when he or she speaks - there is nothing more romantic than to feel someone is really hearing you.

4. Create opportunities for a romantic interlude. These can be either subtle ("I heard that movie got great reviews. We should really go see it sometime.") or much more blatant ("Can I cook for you sometime?")

5. Don't be afraid to make the initial contact. Sometimes, all the other person needs is the green light.

6. Be yourself, and take pride in your individuality. If the other person doesn't appreciate it, you definitely deserve better.

Tips & Warnings

• Be a friend first and spend some time together.
• If your self-confidence needs a little boost, indulge yourself with a makeover or a visit to a day spa; spend some time alone doing something that you're good at; smile often and work on your posture (both of these can affect your mood).
• Focus on other things to avoid becoming obsessed - and to show yourself and your potential suitor that you have other interests and talents.
• Be patient - being pushy or needy is likely to get you the opposite response from the one you're after.
• Don't waste your valuable time and energy on someone who is clearly unavailable. Does the person's body language make him or her unapproachable? Perhaps he or she does not want to be pursued in the first place.

Resources

• Bringing people together - Date.com
• Try Perfectmatch.com - a scientific approach to find the one you belong with forever
• Get a free personality profile at eHarmony.com

[Mindart77]

on 4/14/2009 Most would agree that turning to online sources like this to determine our degree of love for someone is cheesy. However, sometimes we all just need some encouragement from a neutral source to motivate us to move in the direction that our heart has already gone!

[clintinvestment]

on 3/14/2009 Loving yourself is the most important thing to do. Good article. Thanks for sharing.

[DrShawn]

on 9/27/2008 Skip playing games. If you like her or him, put it out there. Let the other person know what you want and find out if they are open to giving it to you. We all know what we are in it for. Empty your pockets and put it on the table. This way you can avoid wasting time(money).

[ihaveafacebook]

on 6/23/2008 in response to never making fun of your crush, might get you into a situation where you will stay as a "friend" forever.
I actually do encourage making fun and having a good time with your crush but always do it light-heartedly and knowing not to do it all-the-time
it's good to push the limit from time to time but not totally random out of nowhere

the point is to create a kind of sexual-tention by poking fun at someone to grab their attention by being different than all the other "nice" guys but be careful not to become an ****!

[Kamara]

on 3/27/2008 sometimes it might feellike s/he is not interested when the truth is that s/he A; has no idea that your interested or B; has alot on his/her plate and just hasnt had timne to notice that their is someone right in front of them wanting to be twith them. or because of their busy life they really have no time to be in a relationship. if that is the case you should see if their is anything you can help them with, that would show that you really do care about what is happening in their life and want to be a part of it. which will in turn plant the idea of the two of you being together and get them to thinking about maybe trying to move things around to see if there might be a little time to have a personal life. but dont waist you time on someone who wont make time for you.