How to Sustain a Long-Distance Relationship

It is possible to maintain a long-distance relationship if both partners are committed to communicating..

Sustaining any relationship takes dedication and hard work. Long-distance relationships are especially challenging. Emotional closeness and physical affection are the foundations on which romantic relationships are built. Physical affection is removed from long-distance relationships, and couples must seek other ways to grow and develop across the miles. Maintaining a long-distance relationship requires the commitment of both partners.

Things You'll Need

• Computer with Internet connection
• Email account
• Webcam (optional)
• Phone
• Stationery
• Spending money
• Gift boxes
• Postage

Instructions

Realistic Communication

1. Discuss how you, as a couple, are going to approach being separated for long periods. Listen to each other. This might avoid conflict later.

2. Exchange daily routines and schedules. This avoids rounds of phone tag or cell phones ringing at inopportune times.

3. Draw up a weekly schedule for special communication time. For example, every week around the same time, the couple will meet for a video chat, or maybe there is a nightly goodnight phone call. Be realistic and don’t expect to stick too strictly to a schedule. It is merely a guide to help keep you on track.

4. Agree to write weekly or monthly letters or emails that recap the happenings that were forgotten or overlooked.

Be Spontaneous

1. Mail your mate a box with thoughtful trinkets and forget-me-nots. Things such as photos, cards or love letters tell the other person you are thinking of her.

2. Send unexpected e-cards (electronic greeting cards available online, many for free) just to say hi or that you are thinking of him. A light-hearted e-card lightens the mood after a spat.

3. Add an element of excitement to your relationship. Surprise your loved one by planning a secret rendezvous. Make your scheduled time together special by changing the atmosphere. Meet somewhere between your respective cities to spend a full day or weekend together.

Tips & Warnings

• Be honest about your true thoughts and feelings. Don’t be afraid to express fear or doubt. Realize that you cannot know what your partner is doing every minute of every day. Trust the other person to be truthful and loyal.

References

• Making Long-Distance Relationships Work

Resources

• Read this Article in UK English