How to Offer Constructive Criticism That is Received

The word "offer" in How to Offer Constructive Criticism is key to this discussion. When giving constructive criticism you must remember that you only "offer" your critique, it is up to the other person whether they chose to benefit by it. However, the way that you "offer" the constructive criticism may determine whether they chose to receive it.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

1. The first step has to do not with the criticism, but with your heart. If you are not genuinely concerned about the person you are critiquing or their work, you are not qualified to offer you "advice". Make sure you are not offering your "insight" out of envy or jealousy, or because someone has recently corrected you.

2. Craft your criticism as a "sandwich". Offer positive encouragement first, then the constructive criticism, and follow it up with more positive encouragement.

3. Point out specifics in your criticism. Assuming that you have more experience or talent in an area, your goal is to "construct" your friend. Constructive criticism, implies "building up" or "strengthening" an area of character or skill. You can only do this with specific instruction.

4. Follow up. Walk in step with this person as they attempt to implement the changes that your constructive criticism dictates they must make. Continue to offer encouragement, but also to show specific ways that they can improve their conduct, character, or work projects.

Tips & Warnings

• If possible have your constructive criticism discussions in private. This is not a public issue, but is one between the two of you.
• Never throw out criticism on the "fly". Only engage in this conversation when you have time to go through the steps of affirmation, criticism, and more affirmation.

[turtledove]

on 4/8/2009 I like the constructive criticism "sandwich," as you said. On top of making it easier for the other person, it also obliges you to think of something nice to say to them! 5*

[Susanh]

on 2/4/2009 The term "offer" is so key. Thank you for this well written article.

[taskeinc]

on 12/2/2008 Constructive criticism is a good thing if used in a tactful manner ..

[sunshine11219]

on 11/23/2008 great article

[2enjoylife]

on 11/23/2008 I've often heard the term constructive criticism but never considered that construct means to build. Interesting that we have the power to build others, and no wonder that our in put should be offered and not insisted upon. Thanks for something to think about and act upon!