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Step 1
Learn to enjoy spending time with yourself. You are very important to the world and you are here for a purpose. You don't need others to fulfill you. You can be happy all by yourself. It doesn't take others to go for a walk, enjoy nature, needlepoint, quilt, read a book, etc. Instead you can do these things alone and have a blast.
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Step 2
Become committed to feeling content. Whether you are lonely or content depends on you. You alone control how you react to situations and if you really don't' be lonely during the holidays them choose to be fulfilled and happy instead. In fact, every single day say positive affirmations like "I am happy and content and know that this is going to be the best holiday season ever." Repeat this over and over again and commit yourself to making your dream a reality.
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Step 3
Visualize yourself happy. You must visualize yourself being happy during the holiday. Don't see yourself moping around and miserable. Instead, see yourself as vibrant, happy and full of happiness. See yourself surrounded by people who care about and love you and making a positive difference in their lives.
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Step 4
Make an effort to reconnect with old pals. In order to have friends, you have to be a friend so begin now to plant seeds of love and friendship. You can do this by making telephone calls to friends and family members you have lost contact with. Tell them that you were thinking about them and ask them out for coffee or a holiday drink. If this isn't possible, due to distance, write them a special letter that tells them how much you care about them. But, make an effort to reconnect.
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Step 5
Attend or host a holiday gathering. That's right, attend a party or have your very own. That is, don't alienate yourself from others. Instead, get out there and quality time with people who care about you. In addition, once you're there, decide to have a wonderful time (the best time ever) and do so.
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Step 6
Meet new people. Make a commitment to meet at least 3 new people during the holiday season. You can do this by joining a neighborhood group, free gathering, or attending a local church. There are many organizations that host special "meet and greets". Go to one and make a conscious effort to meet others.
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Step 7
Concentrate on servicing others during the holidays. Many times we get so focused on ourselves that we forget about others. If you really want to not be lonely then you should volunteer at the local soup kitchen or some other organization. Being around homeless and people who are less fortunate than you, will make you realize how important you are to others. It will show that you are important and that you can make a positive difference in the lives of others.
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Step 8
Go out and have fun by yourself. Instead of being cooped up in the house feeling lonely, go to dinner by yourself or a movie. You don't have to stay at home feeling miserable. Instead, you can do something fun and exciting. You can enjoy yourself. Not only will this keep you from feeling lonely during the holidays but it will improve your self esteem and confidence to know that you can bring yourself out of a slump by taking positive action.
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Step 9
Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Decide to be happy that you are here in the world. Many people didn't make it to this holiday so you should feel blessed that you are here. After all, everyone has a purpose in life and your purpose could very well be, to help someone else. Therefore, stop feeling sorry for yourself and get out there and do something to help someone else.
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Step 10
In conclusion, you can stop feeling lonely this holiday and have a great time. You simply have to follow the above mentioned tips and once you do, you can eliminate loneliness and say goodbye to the holiday blues. Good luck and Happy Holidays - this will be your best holiday yet.
Comments
openwave said
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markhenry said
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Ericcanuck said
on 11/21/2008 Great article.