How to Fall In Love

Everyone talks about love, but how many really know what love is. It is not automatic; it takes work and sacrifice. However it is beautiful. Here is how to fall in love.

Difficulty: Easy

Instructions

1. First think about yourself and who you are. What do you like most about yourself and what do you like least? Think about how you want someone in your life to act and what you want him to bring out. You are not looking for someone to change you or fix you. You are looking for someone who brings out the best that is already inside of you.

2. Now think about when you were happy doing nothing. Sure it is easy to be happy when you are at an amusement park, but what about when you are sitting on the couch. Who were you thinking about?

3. Think about who is the first person you call or want to call when things go bad because you know he'll make you happy.

4. Now think about who can hurt you. I know you may be thinking what are you talking about. I do not mean who can hit you or abuse you. I mean who can say innocent little things such as I want a job that will let me be gone for a month or two every few month that make you want to cry. He is the one without whom you can't imagine handling life as well or being totally happy. Without him you could still survive and be happy but it would be harder. If here you are thinking no without him I'd die, then please stop reading and get counseling or talk to a friend. Those words lean towards obsession more than love. Love is wanting him but not needing him. You both need to be your own people, because that is who you were when you met and what made you love each other.

5. Now think of who you care about more than yourself. If he says I am moving to Texas for a promotion you may cry, but you would support him in the end because him happiness is more important that yours. Realize it is this moment that you have found love. The moment you put someone's needs and happiness above your own. It may not be your husband or boyfriend, it may be your child or your pet. When it happens hold on tight because it is a once in a lifetime feeling.

Tips & Warnings

• Sacrifice: Realize that love can be intense but you need to give it space. You may want him in bed with you every day but he has work or school. Give him the space he needs to do what he needs to do. In this day do what you need to do. Find your passion. Mine was writing and here I am. This allows you both to grow and have more goodness and positive things in your life that he can bring out.
• Do not give up. If he just wants to be friends, let that be all it is. Love is not about sex, marriage, kids, it is about two people who care about each other and would do anything to make each other happy and would never intentionally hurt each other. It is perfection.
• Beware, make sure you are ready for love and strong enough to handle the intensity of when you are together and the intense daydreams of him when you are apart. He should never negatively impact your life or your work.

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on 12/22/2008 Being hurt is all a part of the love process; play with fire, get burned type deal. But in the end, it's all worthwhile. Love is grand.