How to Introduce a Child to a New Significant Other

Whether you have been a single parent for years or only a short period of time, your child or children will probably be less than thrilled when you start dating. Children often are jealous when their parent starts to date someone new. Kids also are likely to be afraid to include someone new in their life, for fear that the relationship will end, just as it did with you and their other parent. Here's how to introduce your new significant other to your child in a way that makes the transition a little smoother for everyone.

Instructions

1. Determine whether it is necessary to introduce your child to your new significant other at this point. If you are in a relationship that you do not consider serious or long-term, there is really no point in introducing your child or children to your new love. However, if you have entered into a committed relationship that you envision being long-lasting, it is time to consider having your new significant other meet your kids.

2. Talk to your significant other to make certain she is ready to meet your children. Even if your children grow to love her, it is not going to happen overnight. They might ignore your new love, or even be out-and-out rude. Do not sugar-coat this for your girlfriend. Talk to her and make sure she understands the obstacles she will face.

3. Sit down and talk with your child or children about your new significant other before making any formal introductions. Explain to them that you have someone new in your life who makes you happy. Share some of the positive qualities of your new love with the children, to help them understand why you like that person so much. Let your children share their feelings and reactions to your relationship before they meet your significant other.

4. Reassure you children that they still are, and always will be, Number One in you life. Let them know that your new relationship in no way changes your love for them. It is important for children to realize that, although you aren't going to end your relationship if they don't like the idea of you having someone new, you are also not going to neglect their needs in order to pursue your own happiness.

5. Plan a simple afternoon of introductions. Do not invite your significant other to meet the children during your regular family time. For example, if you have Sunday dinner with the kids ever week, wait until another time for introductions. Invite your significant other to meet you and your children at the local ice-cream shop or at the county fair. Select an outing that won't last for hours, but will allow everyone to hang out and enjoy an afternoon together.