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Step 1
Network: Look on the internet and find support groups and clubs that focus on things you are interested in such as running. Call your friends and go out. Right now you are going from having someone around to being on your own so jump start your social life. Having people around will help you remember that you are not alone and that there are people who need you.
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Step 2
Meditate: Set aside 15 minutes every day to meditate. Think about the good and bad of your marriage and your divorce. Think about what is going on in your life and what you think about it.
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Step 3
Act: Take everything you thought about and if there is anything that you do not like, think how to change it. Remember that you have the power to change your life.
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Step 4
Be Present: It is easy to mope around and go into yourself, but do not. Realize that there are people out there that need you. Make time for family, friends, and everyone you spent time with before the divorce.
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Step 5
Save: Think of ways to save money since you are now going from 2 incomes to 1. Talk about trading babysitting, lawn care, and looking after neighbors houses for the holidays when they are around. Save up trade points so that when you need help there are people who owe you a favor.
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Step 6
Grieve: Write a journal venting, crying, grieving, yelling ect. Schedule an hour each day to do this. Once you finish a page tear it out and up and physically remind yourself that the marriage is over and you are past the bad times. You have done the tough part- divorce. The rest is easy.
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Step 7
Get Physical: There may be times when you feel tired, depressed worn out. Overcome this and exercise. Exercise releases endorphines which help improve your mood and make you feel happier and healthier.
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Step 8
Focus on Positive: Each morning before you start the day and each evening before going to sleep write and focus on the positive things going on in your life. This will help you stay happy, healthy, and realize that things are not that bad.
Comments
sneedc said
on 12/22/2008 All very positive approaches to handling divorce.
JudyCutler1946 said
on 11/16/2008 Your article on how to survive divorce is very concrete and helpful. These are the steps I took and I flourished.