How to Be a Great Flirt

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Be a Great Flirt

While some of us seem to have been born with a natural ability to flirt, there are those of us who need a little extra help when it comes to the subtle art of flirtation. Are you shy? Do you have no clue how to even begin flirting with someone you have an interest in? If you follow these easy steps, you will be well on your way to catching that special someone's eye!

Things You'll Need

  • A good attitude!
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Instructions

    • 1

      One of the easiest ways to catch someone's eye is a nice, big, and most importantly, sincere smile. Make eye contact for a few seconds and then lower your eyes down and a bit to the right while maintaining a small smile. You won't seem too bold, but will show interest at the same time.

    • 2

      Make sure you have a good attitude. In the earliest stages of flirting it's never a good idea to complain about your job, your roommate, your ex, or anything unpleasant. Keep the conversation nice and light. The best way to scare someone away is to go into a long, drawn out story about your life the second you meet someone new. Good topics are movies, books, music, travel and hobbies.

    • 3

      Show a sincere interest in what the object of your flirtation is saying. Nothing is more off-putting than chatting with someone who is constantly looking around the room or away from you. It gives off the vibe that you're just waiting for something better to come along.

    • 4

      Avoid bashing other people. This will make you look, at best, catty, at worst incredibly insecure. This is not attractive in any way, shape, or form. Keep negative thoughts about others to yourself.

    • 5

      Maintain good eye contact, not too much, but not too little. If you're going to break eye contact, look down at your hand holding your drink, smooth your skirt or pants or look at something in front of you on the table or bar. It's never a very good idea to look at your watch, check out other people, text or dig around in your purse. You will either give off the impression that you're bored or nervous.

    • 6

      Maintain an air of mystery. It's not a good idea to lay all your cards on the table within the first 10 minutes of talking to someone. Not spilling your guts immediately will make the other person curious to find things out about you, and also have to work a little to get to know you. Most people enjoy a bit of a challenge while flirting!

    • 7

      Be confident but not cocky. Keep bragging about yourself to a bare minimum- better yet, don't do it at all. Know-it-alls are a huge turn-off, as are those who try to embellish the truth to make themselves feel better.

Tips & Warnings

  • Make sure

  • you

  • end the conversation first. Always leave them wanting more!

  • Don't use profanities, ever. It will make you look low class.

  • Don't drink too much alcohol as you may become too uninhibited.

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Comments

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  • matimu Feb 09, 2009
    yeah it works
  • Perugina Nov 20, 2008
    Nice article Krissy! The "don't brag" caution is wise and true.
  • luckycricket Nov 19, 2008
    Good to know! LOL!
  • Shawnna Nov 18, 2008
    Kudos on the profanity point. It is so true that you lose all credibility if you speak gutter.
  • MIghtyDreamer Nov 18, 2008
    wise suggestions

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