How to Write a Sympathy Card

Writing a sympathy card is a task that is none too easy. The emotions are complex, which makes writing about them even harder. However, we are compelled to write our bereaved to let them know our warm thoughts are with them. Here are a few ideas to help you express your sympathy.

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Pen
• Stamp
• Envelope
• Card or Paper
• An Open Heart

1. Start by letting your reader know how you remember the person who has passed by relating a short story or list of traits associated with the deceased. This is a common ground from which you can express your feelings and have those feelings understood.

2. Follow your remembrances with a description of your grief. This is a healthy validation of your feelings, and it is also an assurance to your reader that they are not alone in their grief.

3. Tell your reader you understand they are hurt. If it is appropriate, invite your reader to ask you for help if they need it, even just an ear to listen.

4. Finish your letter with words of encouragement and kindness. Strength, healing, and support might be some themes to write about among others.

5. Send your letter. Have confidence that your words will comfort and support your reader's feelings.

Tips & Warnings

• One of my favorite sympathy cards I've ever sent reads : "What a caterpillar calls the end, the rest of the world calls a butterfly." A beautiful and assuring sentiment.