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Step 1
Getting married at a dedicated wedding venue usually means that there will be a coordinator available to suggest a wedding minister or one may even be included in a wedding ceremony "package." What if you're getting married at a friend or family member's home, a park, the beach or other venue without a resource for an officiant? Knowing what to look for and the questions to ask will mean that you won't be disappointed with your choice.
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Step 2
A wedding officiant is the man or woman who creates and performs your actual wedding ceremony and then files the marriage license with your county. Requirements vary by state, but all officiates must have some legal authorization to perform marriages. Make sure the officiate you choose is duly authorized.
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Step 3
You'll want to ask what services the wedding minister provides. Will he or she meet with you to discuss your wants and needs? Does he or she write specialized ceremonies or do you simply choose from stock ceremonies? Can they offer valid advice on wedding protocol (especially if you're not using a wedding planner)? Do they have references? Will the officiate accommodate theme weddings, unusual venues (hot air balloon), and your desires regarding religious references in the ceremony?
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Step 4
Another issue is how much the officiate charges for his or her services. Generally, fees range from $200 to over $1,000. Make sure you've agreed on a price and understand if there is a deposit required to hold your date. A signed agreement is a good idea as well with all the pertinent details spelled out.
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Step 5
In order to actually find some wedding ministers to speak with before you choose, ask your friends and family members if they can suggest someone. In addition, you can use a search engine such as Google or Yahoo. Enter "wedding officiant yourtown" and see what hits you get. Also, there are many wedding vendor sites such as The Gathering Guide, Wedding Wire, etc that list officiates along with photographers, caterers, etc.
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Step 6
Remember, the words said to marry you aren't "magic," but the right words can add a depth and dimension to your special day that will be remembered long after the dress is cleaned and boxed and the rice is swept up. Don't neglect to find the right person with the right words for you and your fiance'. A little research will go along way. You don't have to just take who your planner suggests. Choose the person who's right for you. Congratulations!
