How to Boost a Pre-Schooler's Self-Esteem

There is no better time in a child's life to boost her self-esteem than before she starts school. Every parent wants to give their child every advantage possible. High self-esteem is huge advantage to a child. It is something they will take with them for the rest of their lives. Don't waste a single moment. Follow these guidelines and you will be boosting your pre-schooler's self-esteem.

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Instructions

1. Be as positive with your pre-schooler as possible. Catch them being good and tell them you noticed their positive behavior. Treat each accomplishment of your pre-schooler as if they found the cure to cancer or painted a picture better than Picasso ever could have. At their age, pre-schoolers are exploring their limitations and expanding their abilities and skill sets. Every time they learn or try something new, let them know how proud you are of them.

2. Be affectionate with your pre-schooler. Your hugs and kisses speak much louder than your words. Take time to touch your child. Connect with your pre-schooler on a physical level. Develop a special pat or even a signal that tells your child how wonderful you know she are. This is something that she will carry with her all of her life and, maybe, pass on to your grandchildren.

3. Spend time with your pre-schooler. In this day and age of children being sent to daycare centers, babysitters and nannies due to financial difficulties, it is important the parents spend as much time with their child as possible. Use what time you have together to talk and sing songs. Play skill level-appropriate games together. During your time together, make your pre-schooler know he is the center of the universe. Remember that there is an educational opportunity everywhere. Take advantage of these opportunities and teach your child a new fact or skill.

4. Praise your pre-schooler every chance you get. Remember there is a difference in praising your child and praising their accomplishments. Praise your pre-schooler for the person she is. Attach positive emotions to your praise. Say things like "You make me happy when you share" instead of "it is nice for you to share."

5. Listen to your pre-schooler. Don't just hear what he saying, truly listen with your heart and your mind. It is important that every preschooler know that what she has to say is worthy of being heard. When possible, re-word what you child said to you when you answer him. When your child says, "I ate all my green beans," make your reply something like "I see you ate all of your green beans - good job" instead of "good job." That way your pre-schooler knows you heard and understood them.

Resources

• Dr. Phil McGraw

[writeitout]

on 12/21/2008 I agree, quality time is so important. Great article.

[Eliza1]

on 12/13/2008 Great article and information. Thanks for the tips!

[prism]

on 12/11/2008 Great advice! So simple yet easy to forget when we our lives get a bit chaotic. Thanks!

[MommyBear]

on 12/11/2008 Definitely! These are great tips for parents with children in all age groups, too. Good job. :) 5*****

[momaloy]

on 12/11/2008 Quality time with your little one is so important! I've found that my son acts up sometimes just to get my attention. Thanks for the great tips!