How to Be More Outgoing
Social anxiety and shyness can be crippling character traits. While others seem to dance and have a good time with much ease, you may find it difficult to hold a conversation with others. Although you may not realize it, many of the most outgoing people you know shared similar feelings as you. Many of them had to learn to overcome their fear of awkwardness and social rejection over time. You, too, can learn to be an outgoing person with some effort and practice.
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Adopt an outgoing person as your role model. According to Keith Ferrazzi, the author of "Never Eat Alone: And Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time," you can learn a lot from paying attention to the behavior of someone who exudes the confidence you wish to have. Listen to how he talks to and how he behaves around others to get pointers on how to become more outgoing in social settings. Realize that your role model is only human — just as you are; so, if he can do it, you can do it as well — with practice and determination.
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Enroll in a public speaking course. The class will provide you with ample opportunities to get in front of other people and speak in a risk-free, supportive environment. With time, you will develop confidence in your abilities to put yourself out there socially.
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Arrange a list of conversation topics before you leave the house. Many people are hesitant to be outgoing because they fear being entrapped in awkward situations. Equipped with a list of topics to bring up in the event of an awkward silence, you will seem more confident, and you will send outgoing vibes to those around you.
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Attend parties and other social gatherings. Before heading out the door, make a goal to introduce yourself to a certain number of people before the end of the night. Increase this number every time you go out until you are able to interact easily with others without a fear of being judged. If introducing yourself to others is too much of a terrifying prospect at first, begin by making yourself approachable to others. Make eye contact when you are approached and introduce yourself with a warm and inviting smile. More people will wish to interact with you when they realize that you are an inviting person, and you will be making friends before you know it.
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Recognize that every attempt you make at being more outgoing is an accomplishment. Many reserved people make the mistake of getting discouraged after they try to be outgoing; consequently, they fail. Instead, congratulate yourself on having the courage to put yourself out there. Remember, you are coming from a place where you would not even try to behave in an outgoing manner; so, every small step you take is indicative of progress.
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very interesting!
