How to Have Long Lasting Relationships

Are you tired of dating the wrong people? Have you found yourself in too many failed relationships? Here you will find out how to turn all of that around.

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Open Mind
• Honesty
• Adventurous Spirit
• Determination

1. Start by cleaning your house! Yes, cleaning your home. Getting rid of anything that reminds you of a past relationship. Why are you keeping those things really. Every time you look at the stuff you thing of that person, whether you want to admit it or not. It is a constant reminder, LET IT GO!

2. It's time for a reality check! Do you really know who YOU are? Right down your good points and your flaws. Here is where honesty is key, you will get a good picture of yourself.

3. Look at this list! What would you like to change about yourself and what would you like to change? We must look at ourselves first because if you do not know yourself and love the person you are, how can you expect someone else to?

4. You must get yourself stable before getting involved in any relationship, at least one that you expect to last. If your list states that you know you are a great cook but a poor housekeeper, here is a point that you can consciously work on yourself instead of hoping you marry someone who will pick up after you. Don't expect people to take up your slack. It is unfair to go into any relationship with unfair expectations of the other person. What if they get tired of cleaning up after you, then what?

5. Now write another list of what you would like in a partner and what you don't. Be honest! If you don't like cigarette smoke, don't date a smoker. I know this seems obvious but seriously, how many of us actually think we can either change a person or can deal with it cause they could be doing worst things.

6. Think about all of your past relationships. How much crap did you put up with just because you thought it wasn't that bad until it got on your nerves? How much time would you have saved, if when you met them and they showed you who they were the first time and you ignored it thinking you could FIX them.

7. What's your life's lesson? You should have learned something from each of these experiences. Something about yourself. You know those things that you thought you wanted but when you got them you realized it wasn't for you. Write them down also, if you like.

8. Now forgive yourself and be grateful! Forgive yourself for not being brutally honest with yourself in the begining of these past failures. But be grateful that you had these experiences to help you know who you are as a person.

9. After all of this reminicing, pray or meditate. Pray or meditate for help improving yourSELF! A peace of mind that you are doing things that will benefit you and not do you harm will make you life a lot happier. Accepting your flaws and working towards getting better is always a good step.

10. Release the past, let go of the negative, and embrace all things positive. Stop searching because once you get yourself together your meaningful longlasting relationship will find you! Just remember to be competely honest with yourself, don't be embarased about what you like or don't like. BE REAL and you will always end up HAPPY!

Tips & Warnings

• Be completely honest!
• Listen to yourself not other people!

[moikehagirl]

on 2/14/2009 I'm so glad I came across this article! This is truly inspiring! Thank you!

[00Analana]

on 11/12/2008 I agree, knowing who you are and what you really want is important.