How to Accept Your Child is Gay

My daughter was about 11 yrs old when I realized she was different. I never asked her about it, I just knew. It was an unspoken topic between us, but I think she always knew that I knew, understood, and would always be there for her. If you realize your child gay or even think it, Don't Panic, and Don't Confront them.
first give yourself a chance to get used to it yourself.

Difficulty: Easy

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• love
• acceptance
• understanding
• encouragement

1. realize that being gay is not an illness. Gay is the gene a person is born with. Just like genes determine the color of your eyes and hair, or whether you are tall or short, genes also determine your sexual orientation.

2. Be there for your child. Even if you don't discuss the fact that your child is gay right away, let your child know through your actions and responses to other gays that you are accepting of it. A derogatory remark or even an awkward or condescending glance at another gay can cause your child to hold everything in for fear of your disapproval.

3. When your child does open up to you, hug them, support them and let them know that what is important to you, is that they have a happy fulfilling life. Isn't that what everyone wants for their child.

4. when your child finally finds a life partner, and they love and respect each other. Love that partner and welcome them into the family.

5. I am a Christian, and I know what the bible says about gay, but it also says the sins of the father are visited upon the sons. I believe that during the times of the Old and New Testaments, that gay was a sin. I believe that gay children now are products of that sin, just like children of alcoholics, are more prone to alcoholism. I don't believe God wants all these generations of our children to suffer, and live loveless, unhappy and unfulfilled lives because of what their ancestors did.

Tips & Warnings

• When I meet new people, especially when I was dating before I got remarried, I always let them know pretty much from the beginning, like me like my kids.
• Never feel embarrassed or ashamed. If anything have sympathy for the closed minded.

[onyekachi]

on 2/3/2009 I don't think that any one is created gay.Its a choice that came as a result of many thing s in the life of a child.For every christian,don't change the word of God to suit your problems instead table your problems before God as the Bible tells us to pray without ceasing. If I always want to sleep with a married man,its not God that put that urge in me,its my thoughts and my mind. the bible admonishes us to think only of good,pure and lovely things.Many times, we allow our thoughts to drift to our canal nature and we can't hold God responsible for that. I think that parents that have gay children should pray for them,counsel them and also tell them that God says we should not lie with our kind.ie man/man or woman/woman. It's not condemnation it is the word of God.If you can't stand up for the word of God because of your short comings don't bring up God or the Bible in that discussion. In

[wcs40110]

on 12/24/2008 Wonderful! Thank you for writing.

[voliegurl]

on 11/30/2008 Very touching, and insightful thanks 5* and recommendation!

[starlet67]

on 11/16/2008 If only all parents were this understanding!
Good information.

[Angelgirlpj]

on 11/10/2008 Good article but somehow I don't think God made mistakes in making us. Being Gay doesn't make her bad but should know what the Bible says. It's the same yesterday, today and tomorrow :+)