How to Ask Your Parents To Move Back Home

For those of you who just finished college, lost a home or just got laid off, moving back home with your parents is not a bad idea as you figure things out. Not only will you save money and have a place to stay while you search for a new home or job, your relationship with your parents can grow even stronger.

Difficulty: Easy

Instructions

1. Think about the logistics of moving back home with your parents before anything. How much stuff do you have? Where will it all go? How about your car or pets? Try to find an answer to all of the questions your parents may ask you so they know you've put a lot of thought into this decision and are willing to put in the effort to make it work for the both of you.

2. If possible, meet face to face with your parents when you bring up the idea. Your request will be more convincing if you ask in person.

3. Tell your parents about the situation that you are currently in. Without talking about moving home yet, mention the things you need in order to get your situation under control, and how each of those things would help. For example: "If I could find a place to stay for 3 months rent-free (the need), I could easily find a new job without worrying about money issues." (The how it will help.)

4. Finally, ask your parents nicely if you can move back in with them. Before they answer, mention everything you know about the logistics (step 1) of the move and how long you would stay. Also include that you've put a lot of thought into this decision, and that it would be really helpful for you during your particular situation.

5. If they are hesitant at first, add "conditions" that you will abide by in order to show them you aren't just slacking off. For example: "I promise to spend at least 20 hours each week actively searching for a new job."

6. If they accept, don't be shy and give them a huge hug. They have just helped you out big time. Always remember how they've helped you out, so in the future when they need help - you won't even think twice.

Tips & Warnings

• If your parents do accept your request, please try and do as much work around the house as you can, i.e. clean, cook, chores, etc. They will appreciate this and it will let them know they've made the right decision to let you move back in.
• When back at home, don't be a hermit and stay in your room all day and night. This is an opportunity to get to know your parents even better and strengthen the relationship you already have. They might love that you're home, so show them some love too.
• Moving back home has known to be synonymous with failure. Don't think of it this way, as more and more people are moving back home these days. It should be seen as an opportunity, not a failure.
• Sometimes, it's just not possible to move back home with your parents, due to space, timing or other unforeseen conditions. If this is the case, do not push your request to move back home, as that may cause some conflict between family members.

[MarlaineMarie]

on 11/6/2008 You seem to be a very nice person! Smiling!

[2besure]

on 11/5/2008 I did once. My dad said no. (New wife wasn't cool wit it) I have survived and am stronger for it.

[LettyMaldonado]

on 11/5/2008 Very thoughtful and well written article! Great advice for all twenty somethings.

[vallain]

on 11/5/2008 You are a very considerate young man. This advice should help many.

[RiteNow]

on 11/5/2008 Wonderful article. Thanks. 5*