Things You'll Need:
- Patience
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Step 1
Rather you find it right or wrong, many men see housework as something they do for their wives as a favor, and not that it is just as much their duty as it is their wives. Instead of fighting about it, use it to your advantage: Tell him how important a clean house is to you, and make your requests with love and affection. (Does motive matter if the counters are clean?)
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Step 2
Try to avoid making moral judgements. "You are such a dirty slob" and "You are so lazy" is not going to get the floors done. Making such comments just makes them want to sit on their butts that much more. Instead, tell them how good they look in those rubber gloves. Reward them when they help out around the house...it won't kill you to spend some time in the bedroom with him later.
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Step 3
Let me give you an example. "I know it doesn't bother you if there are a few dirty dishes on the counter, but I feel much more relaxed when the kitchen is clean. It would really mean a lot to me if we could figure out a system for getting the housework done that works for both of us." Your husband will soon figure out that if you are more relaxed then you might not be so tired or stressed when its time to go to bed. Your husband will start to make it a point to pick up after himself and he may even start picking up after you.
Comments
jull14 said
on 7/12/2009 Excellent article and very helpful for many here at ehow. Thanks for sharing with us, keep up the good work. I really love your articles, they are very helpful and provide easy steps to follow.
kaytay said
on 3/27/2009 great tips for getting the hubby to help around the house
stlscientist said
on 3/8/2009 Great approach. Love the ideas.