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Step 1
Start slow. Women require a much longer warm-up than men, and a large part of their sex drive relies on anticipation. Start slow and be gentle. If you go straight for her G-spot, she'll never heat up and your enthusiasm could have adverse affects, like irritating the one nerve that can send her over the edge.
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Step 2
Moisten the area. A woman gets wet when she's turned on, so if you've been in foreplay for quite sometime before heading down south, she may already be wet. Use her own secretions to lubricate the entire vagina. The moisture from your mouth will serve as a lubricant as well, but if your girl has a hard time getting wet, you can use a store-bought lubricant.
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Step 3
Pay attention to all the parts of the vagina. While the clitoris is the iconic "hot button," a woman's vagina is filled with thousands of nerve endings. Lick, kiss and suck all of the different parts. Draw your tongue in circles around the exterior of the vagina, take her vaginal lips into your mouth and massage them gently. Tease the opening of her vagina as well.
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Step 4
Explore her insides as well. Oral sex isn't just about the exterior of the vagina. There are a lot of things you can do with your tongue that you cannot do with a penis. Explore the inside of her vagina by thrusting your tongue inside her.
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Step 5
Breathe through your mouth. This is one of the best tips for performing oral sex--and is also one of the most overlooked. By nature, we breathe through our nose when our mouth is obstructed, so it is only normal that we'd breathe through our nose while performing cunnilingus. Try breathing through your mouth instead. The movement of the air will add light sensations all over the vagina.
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Step 6
Do some exploring. There is no rule book or road map to oral sex. Every person differs in the things that they like and dislike when it comes to sex, so you have to learn about your partners body. Play close attention to the way she reacts when you try different things. Her noises and the reactions of her body will tell you if you're doing it right.
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Step 7
Use your hands. While you're exploring her vagina with your mouth, try using your fingers as well. Gently rub her clitoris or explore inside as well. Try it both ways: thrusting in and out of her while licking her clitoris, or licking inside her while using your finger to stimulate her clitoris.
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Step 8
Don't lose focus. Most women will ultimately climax from clitoral stimulation. When you think your girl has reached the point of no return, hone in on this sensitive area. When the clitoris is stimulated, it swells and is more easily accessible. Take it into your mouth and gently suck on it while simultaneously flicking it with your tongue. Continuous stimulation of this zone, when she's beginning to orgasm, will make her toes curl.
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Step 9
Understand what a woman's orgasm looks and feels like. Many women claim to fake orgasms, but the truth is that no one can fake an orgasm. The body does things during orgasm that cannot be mimicked. A woman will tremble and hold her breath during an orgasm while her vagina will actually tremble and quake. It is not internal; you can feel and see it. There is a reason they compare a female orgasm to an earthquake.
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Step 10
Watch her masturbate. One of the best ways to learn about what your girl likes is to watch how she pleasures herself. This will not only show you the pace that works best for her, but will point out key areas you should be focussing on. Watching a woman masturbate will also work to your advantage as well; it's a wonderful turn on for the both of you.
Comments
donaldlyn said
on 12/4/2009 Great article! Not many give help in this important area that really counts.