How to Be Charming when Approaching Someone New

When you really like someone it's easy to become shy and nervous. That jittery excitement is often part of the fun- and you don't have to change who you are to catch someone's attention. Here is a little simple advice to help you charm the person who has caught your eye. Lucky them!

Difficulty: Easy

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Your Charming Self!

1. Catch their eye:
   
   Don't hesitate to let the person know you have noticed them. Everyone loves to feel admired. It's okay for he or she to catch on to the fact that you have a small crush on him or her. It will increase your air of intrigue and create a sense of mystery-

2. 
    

   Smile:
   
   I tend to smile with a coyish grin, then look away. This is a playful way to insinuate interest, but to be less forward. Imply that his or her attention is special so as not to suggest arrogance or over-confidence.

3. 
    

   Be confident:
   
   If I see someone that I like often, I try to dress in a way that makes me feel comfortable, confident and unique. This does not mean looking like I am on my way to a glam hip-hop music video nor does it mean erasing any sense of my personality in my outfit. Feel free to wear accessories that you love, old sneakers that make you feel comfortable and let your hair be a little messy. After all, if he or she doesn't think you look intriguing as you are, who wants to spend time convincing. Someone will appreciate your quirks and loves- maybe they are looking to catch your eye, already.

4. Keep your friends around:
   
   Having your friends around will make you feel more comfortable, and it will also give you the opportunity to show your playful side.

5. 
    

   Start a conversation:
   
   This is simpler than it sounds! Determine a topic of commonality between you and the person you want to talk to. If it is the first time you have seen this person, or you do not know much about them, focus on where you are. Bars, cafes, subway trains, lines at the supermarket are all places that get you thinking- so share a thought! Make eye contact while you speak, smile and stay confident. It helps to think about how you would you deliver this thought to someone that you didn't have a crush on. Keep your conversation brief. Don't be afraid to giggle or act a little silly. You've spent a lot of time being mysterious, so don't be aloof- focus on the beauty of your natural grace and charm.

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   Get ready for some lovin'!:
   
   Even if things do not work out as you expected with this new person, you still deserve to feel great about having the confidence and interest to speak to someone new! (You mischievous thing, you)! And, every smile or conversation started is simply another step closer to meeting new people who were meant to teach you something about yourself, about people or about life, in general. Always stay optimistic.

Tips & Warnings

• I find it best to approach someone after having let them know that I've noticed them by smiling at them a few times. This allows them to feel more ready when they speak to you and lessens the chance of a nervous response for them, as well.
• When you are speaking to someone new, it helps to have an activity that you're already engaged in. This way, you have something to keep you distracted if you get nervous, and a prop to exit the conversation smoothly. But! Things shouldn't get awkward (except in a flirtatious way) if you follow my advice and stay confident and keep your early conversations simple and short.

[tawfik]

on 7/12/2009 nice article

[Sumia]

on 3/15/2009 Smiling is definitely key :)

[Thims]

on 11/23/2008 Smiling is the key. There is no better invitation.
Good article.

[Geargirl113]

on 11/13/2008 Great tips 5 stars*****

[Pillain]

on 11/3/2008 Good to know. Nice pics.