How to Avoid a Dating Recession

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

Yourself
A desire for action and excitement
A light-hearted approach
Optimism

Step 1

Be bolder. When it comes to dating, most of us play our hands too timidly and hold onto our chips too tightly. If you have a desire to do something--like confess your feelings to your crush, wink at a stranger, post a personal ad online--but your mind jumps in and cautions, "No, too scary!"--then that action is the exact one you must take. When it comes to dating--if you take no risks--you will make no gains.
Step 2

Set a goal. How many bold moves will you make each week? One? Three? Ten? Decide on a concrete number, keep track and hold yourself accountable. Successful businesspeople create plans and work diligently to reach their goals, and the same rules apply to successful daters. You can't sit back and wait for things to happen; you must take action.
Step 3

Show your value. When people look for financing for their companies, they work hard to sell their idea to potential investors. They talk about their companies' assets, demonstrate their prolific vision for the future and make investors confident that they will see a profit. In the world of dating, your company is yourself, and you are looking for people who will want to invest their time and emotions into you. You must help your potential dates see that spending time with you will be worthwhile. I am not saying to brag about yourself (braggarts are extremely unattractive), but I am saying that you must believe in your value, embrace your beauty and show your worth with every step.
Step 4

Ask yourself, “Am I offering what the market wants?” "Are there things I could do to improve my appearance?" Maybe you could take better care of your body with a healthier diet and regular exercise. Or do you have any personality traits that could be blocking you from getting dates? Do you talk over others? Are you endlessly sarcastic or overly sensitive? While we must not be shy about showing our strengths, we must also look at ourselves with an objective eye and be willing to improve our weaknesses. We are dynamic beings, and, if we so choose, can continue to grow until our last breath. What improvements should you be making on yourself right now?
Step 5

Mimic successful daters. Warren Buffet is one of the most successful investors of our lifetime, and while other financial professionals are viewed with skepticism, he always seems to do well and people continue to seek out his advice. I’m sure a lot of financial professionals wish they had followed his prudent approach to investing all along. If you are in the midst of a dating downturn, learn lessons from people whose dating stocks hold strong.
Step 6

Diversify. One of the biggest mistakes I see those around me make again and again is to put all their emotional eggs into one person’s basket too early. Just because you’re crushing, doesn’t mean wedding bells will soon be ringing in your favor. Keep your options open and really get to know your love interest before diving in headfirst.
Step 7

Remember: Love isn't like money. Love isn't like oil. Love does grow on trees. Love flies through the air. Love is an abundant, renewable resource. You can create it from thin air wherever you go.

Comments

amandaford said

on 1/5/2009 Hi, Chuck. With everybody going green these days, not having a car can actually be an asset as opposed to a liability. Just say that you are working to decrease your carbon footprint. It'll make her swoon.