How to Catch a Cheating Spouse

In most instances a spouse is caught cheating by accident. The cheater is discovered in bed with his mistress, the wife was seen with her boyfriend and someone alerted her husband, or someone forgets their phone at home, forgets to close their email etc. There are however some cheaters, who are good at what they do. Meaning they cover their tracks well. If you suspect your spouse is cheating, have no proof but want to know the truth, this article is for you. It is of primary importance that you do not alert your spouse to your suspicions as this will only make them more careful. You want them to feel relaxed and certain that they will never get caught.

Difficulty: Challenging

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Patience
• Level Head
• Strength

1. Essentially you have to monitor your spouse. Take note of the following; much longer work day, frequent business trips, diminished or increased interest in sex, concern with his/her appearance, new wardrobe, petty arguments which cause him to storm out of the house and stay away for hours at a time apparently venting etc.

2. Save any receipts, bank statements, credit card statements, atm withdrawal receipts and pay stubs. Take note of any inconsistent purchases such as gifts that were not given to you, hotel rooms, restaurants and so on. When in pursuit of a new love interest a cheater will always spend more money than usual. For women the money is usually spent on self improvement such as a new wardrobe, frequent spa visits and personal trainer. The men also invest in self improvement but they usually carry all the other costs such as for dates, hotels and weekend getaways as well. Keep careful track of all the money coming in and all the money going out.

3. It's best to keep a journal while you investigate. Remember that you don't want to accuse your spouse of anything until you have undisputable proof. If they are cheating the accusation will only serve as a reminder to be more careful. This is the exact opposite of what you want them to do. In your journal jot down everything you think is unusual about your spouse's behavior. The way he/she interacts with you, the kids (if you have any), sexual contact, note how often your spouse initiates sex and if they introduce new positions and techniques. Oftentimes a cheating spouse will change his or her story particularly about their whereabouts, and/or question your memory, but when you have everything written down (times, dates, duration of absences and so forth) it will become much more difficult to find new lies and excuses. After all doesn't the bank statement reflect this and that? You get the idea.

4. If you have done all this but still found no proof your spouse may be faithful after all. If you still have your doubts you might consider investing in some computer monitoring software, (keylogger). This software records passwords, email messages, chats and websites visited. The internet is like a miracle from God to any cheater. It allows them to email or chat with their lover in total privacy... kind of.

5. You could also buy a GPS tracking device to see if you were told the truth about his/her whereabouts. GPS tracking devices will track a vehicle's exact location constantly.

6. Home surveillance equipment is an option too, but this is probably not necessary. Hopefully most cheaters know better than to bring their lover home. You never know though, some are dumb/cheap enough to do that. In which case your hidden camera will record all the action.

7. Finally you can always hire a private investigator. This is expensive and in my opinion unnecessary unless your spouse is such a pro that nothing else has worked.

8. If you've done everything except hire a private investigator and found no proof of cheating or an affair perhaps your spouse is being faithful to you, it's an idea you should entertain. If you've found no solid incriminating evidence, consider yourself lucky and take steps to improve your confidence and build trust in your relationship.

Resources

• How to Prevent Cheating
• How to Recognize Cheating
• How to Survive an Extramarital Affair
• The Floozy Who Tried to or Succeeded in Stealing Your Husband

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