How to Deal with a Verbal Bully

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

A positive mind

Step 1

CONFIDENCE. The more you practice self confidence, the more you will have.
Step 2

NO FEAR. Show no fear. Fear is a welcome invitation for bullies.
Step 3

KNOWLEDGE. A bully is one that lacks fitting in and feeling good about himself without putting others down and/or seeks attention as a way of coping with difficult situations. This is where you become offensive and the bully becomes defensive - let the bully know you have knowledge of his problem.
Step 4

AGREE WITH YOUR ADVESARY (Quickly). Do not try to prove yourself, have confidence and do it with a smile. My bully in junior high was a ring leader of a group of popular, beautiful girls. One day she approached me with "Your momma is a wh..." (she used a word for a female street walker). I smiled with a puzzling look and quickly responded, "You may be right. She does work at night". (My mom was a nurse that worked third shift.) Her friends laughed while she became frustrated. After a few more of these incidents, my 5-year being bullied days were over.
Step 5

SHOW KINDNESS. Being kind to every and anyone you meet is your fortress. Be outgoing. When those around you (beyond your circle)see the great person you are, the bully puts himself in the spotlight when picking with you. He shines the light on his insecurities and bad social skills; others will come to your defense.

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Empoweru said

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on 8/11/2009 lindsay1234, you are right. You cannot control the next time the name calling will happen, but what you can control is your response. Most name calling is due to jealousy or misunderstanding of your unique qualities. I tried replying to your message, but a warning message regarding a missing toolbar appear...I hope this helps. Message me anytime. P.S. Things will get better...I'm a living witness.