Asking Someone Out
A crush is fun, but what do you do when you want to take it from just infatuation to something bigger? Can you summon the nerve to learn whether your crush is interested in a relationship? If the answer is yes, then you're ready to ask him or her out. If you've built up enough bravery to do it, then you're already halfway done!
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Instructions
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Feel out the type of relationship you have first. If you're already acquaintances or friends, then perfect! You've built a base for dating. If you've just met someone, have a few conversations first. You want to know the type of person you'll be dating. After all, nothing is more awkward than a terrible date.
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Meet up for a pseudo-date first. This may mean going out with your normal group of friends and then spending time with just person you want to date afterwards, or it could be meeting for morning coffee. Don't think of this as your first date; think of it as an introduction to dating.
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Feel out how the person you want to date feels. Flirt! If you don't get any feedback or responsiveness from her, you're really going out on a limb in asking her out. Decide whether that is a risk you want to take, especially if the person is a friend first.
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Hang out with the person, one-on-one, without putting any labels on it. This builds a little mystery around what your relationship is, and usually increases attraction. It will also aid you both in deciding how you feel about one another.
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Ask. There's nothing more to say than that. Once you've built a base relationship with the person, there's nothing else to do. The most polite thing to do is to ask in person, but over the phone is still ok. Just don't text it. Also, keep it casual. Don't make your first date a big event, like a reunion or prom, because that puts a lot of pressure on someone. The dinner-and-a-movie standard is a great place to start.
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Tips & Warnings
If this is a relationship that has been a long time coming, like a friend who has always been more than friends, it's ok to get more romantic or serious more quickly. However, if it's a person you just met, it may scare him off!
No matter how much you prepare there is always the possibility that she will say no. Don't take it as a blow to your ego - everyone gets turned down sometimes. It just means she doesn't think you're compatible, not that you aren't attractive, kind, funny, and so forth.
