How to Be a Good Big Sister

Being a big sister is a hard and, often, thankless job. You never asked for this job, but you are stuck with it. The responsibility you feel can be mind blowing. There is really no need to feel overwhelmed. You are only human, just like everyone else. Take a deep breath, be thankful that you are a big sister and follow these hints to make that important job of being a good big sister a bit easier.

Instructions

1. Love your siblings, no matter what. You are their family, one of the most important relationships they will ever have. No matter what they do or don’t do, never stop loving them. Your unconditional love will see them through their darkest hours. Part of loving them is forgiving them. No matter what they do, forgiveness must be given. Not just for them, but for yourself as well. It will also boost their self-esteem, self-confidence and their sense of self-worth. Everyone needs that, especially someone as important to you as your little brother(s) and sister(s).

2. Listen. Sometimes all your siblings want you to do is listen. A heartbreak, not getting that promotion at work, or a fish dying may be the most important thing in your sibling's life at that specific moment. Listen, not just hear them, as they explain what is going on. Yes, there are more important issues in the world. Those issues do not matter. This is your little brother or little sister and nothing is more important than letting them know they are important at this particular time.

3. Be understanding. You were that age once. Remember what you felt like when faced with a similar situation. Let her know that, even though her feelings and problems are unique, you know where she is coming from. There isn’t always a need to explain that you have been there, too. Chances are she knows that. She is just asking for you to understand, not an ancient history lesson of your life.

4. Offer help. Figure what you can do to help and let him know that you are willing to give him that help. Do this even when he doesn’t ask. Sometimes your experience can over-ride his pride and stubbornness. Be sure that he truly needs your help and you aren’t just playing the role of “Super Sister,” swooping in to save the day. Don’t do it for your sibling. He needs to learn how to do things on his own.

5. Do not judge. No matter what mistakes she makes, even the most stupid of errors, do not judge her. Think of all the missteps you have taken in your life. Treat her the way you had wanted others to treat you when you goofed up. Keep quiet and keep loving her. When she makes mistakes, she needs you more than ever--even if she doesn’t realize it. Do not make the mistakes that others made with you by judging you.

6. Have fun. Laugh, joke and enjoy each other. Find a way to make his day, thus his life, a bit better by having some fun. No matter what the circumstances, you can always find something to smile about. Share that with your siblings. They need that. You need that, too.