How to Use Your Feminine Wiles

Using feminine wiles should include innocent fun.

Using your feminine wiles to create a spark in a new or existing relationship should not be a bad thing. On a first date, it's refreshing to see the feminine side of a woman. In an existing relationship, it's good to hold on to your feminine side -- but, never in a contrived way. Being an alluring woman should never mean being trashy or dishonest. It should just be a catalyst to sparking a possible attraction.

Difficulty:

Moderately Easy

Instructions

Things You'll Need

• Limits on personal information
• Feminine, slightly revealing clothing
• Moments for light contact
• Lady-like vocabulary
• Ideas for a little fun
• Smiling eyes

1. Don't give it all away; leave something of yourself for the future. Jupiterimages/Goodshoot/Getty Images

   Be mysterious. Only reveal partial information about yourself. Tell your man he's not ready for all of you -- although you wish he was.

2. A white sundress is feminine and alluring. Goodshoot/Goodshoot/Getty Images

   Dress feminine and slightly revealing. Wear slightly revealing clothing like a sweater innocently failing down one shoulder -- never something totally see-through. Wear stilettos -- even with jeans -- if you dare.

3. Simply holding hands can be light, enticing contact. Jupiterimages/BananaStock/Getty Images

   Have a light, flirty touch. Flirting shouldn't be obvious. It should be incidental by a quick, simple, soft touch. It should leave your man wanting more, not overwhelmed with too much upfront contact.

4. Femininity includes speaking and acting like a lady. Goodshoot/Goodshoot/Getty Images

   Speak like a lady. If your date wanted a truck driver, he'd visit a truck stop. Feminine wiles should not have a masculine undertone in speech or word.

5. Naughty can still be honest and nice. Ryan McVay/Lifesize/Getty Images

   Be a little naughty, but honest and nice. Only suggest what you're able to offer. A little teasing can go a long way but it's only nice to be honest about what you'd like to do.

6. A smile is welcome in almost any conversation. Creatas Images/Creatas/Getty Images

   Smile, even if when you're not. Everyone wants to share pleasant moments. Even if you're frowning in disagreement or playfully pouting, smile with your eyes -- it shows respect for the man's strength and opinion.

Tips & Warnings

• Letting light-hearted conversation flow is all part of enjoying each other -- at any stage in a relationship.

• Being yourself should always be put above trying to stimulate attention.

References

• "New York Post"; Fools for Love Need New Rules for Love; Andrea Peyser; November 2010
• Metro: All New Dating Rules for Single Women

Resources

• The Rules Book: Top 10 Rules