How to Ask a Man to Marry You

A moonlit marriage proposal by a handsome prince on a white stallion is among the many images captured in fairy tales. Since life isn’t scripted like that, it may become necessary to craft your own happy ending. If you’re sure that you’ve found your perfect prince, take the initiative to ask him to marry you instead of waiting for his proposal.

Instructions

1. Forget conventional wisdom. Tune out old fashioned thinking that discourages a woman from proposing to a man. Find your inner confidence as you prepare to embark on your personal journey. Refrain from discussing your proposal plans with those who seek to stop your wishes. Common beliefs include that a woman should only propose to a man on February 29 or, that desperation is the only cause for a woman to propose a man.

2. Determine your reasons. Make sure you’re asking him to marry you for the right reasons. Issues like revenge aren’t appropriates reasons to ask a man to marry you. Make a list of things you love about him as well as things you desire from the relationship. Stay honest with yourself to avoid jumping into a situation that can quickly spin out of control.

3. Anticipate his reaction. Take your mate’s personality and personal beliefs into consideration before popping the question. Some men feel that a woman shouldn’t propose marriage to a man under any circumstances. Others would feel honored that a woman would put herself into a vulnerable situation. Avoid putting him into a knowingly uncomfortable situation. This is especially true if you already know he has doubts about marrying you.

4. Choose the perfect setting. Pick a place that your mate will find comfortable to maximize your proposal opportunity. Serene settings like parks may satisfy the romantic while active settings like sports venues work to satisfy the energetic. Get creative with your approach by adding personal flair to the scene. For example, asking the restaurant’s band to play his favorite song prior to your proposal can bring magic and excitement to your moment.

5. Speak from the heart. Look into his eyes and express your passionate feelings for him. Let him know that you can’t imagine your future without him in it. Grab his hand as you prepare to ask the most important question of your life. Let your heart guide your words as you request his hand in marriage. Consider getting down on one knee if you’re comfortable with this act. This will let him know you’re serious and that you can take a joke.

Tips & Warnings

• The direct approach is the best when it comes to marriage. Casual references and jokes about marriage aren’t appropriate ways t ask a man to marry you.

• Avoid pressuring him into an immediate decision. Give him the opportunity to process your proposal.

Resources

• Read about great marriage proposals.