Things You'll Need:
- Be Married
- Willingness
- Commitment
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Step 1
No room for divorceCLOSE ALL THE DOORS: At the onset of your marriage, you and your spouse must come to an absolute agreement that, no matter what challenges you may face, divorce is never an option. Obviously this must exclude chronic abuse or anything criminal. But the point here is that there must be a meeting of the minds that there are always workable alternatives one of which is not divorce. There must be due caution however that you and your spouse must not abuse this step, by feeling that no matter what you do he/she is obligated to forgive you and work it out. If you sense this as your spouses attitude, then it might fall under the abuse exclusion.
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Step 2
You're free to enjoy your marriage!COMPETE IN LOVE: During the course of your marriage, you should realize that you are finally free to enjoy every aspect, nook and cranny of your soul-mate. Living in that reality is the key to not allowing your marriage slip into a mundane state. So make it a contest. Who can be the more loving individual in this marriage? Is he or she showing more affection or acts of love than you are? Well your losing this life-long competition. Step up your game and show your spouse that your are the best at winning "the love game."
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Step 3
Don't forget step oneIN THE CHALLENGING TIMES - In the challenging times, go back to step one. I mean it, there are no challenges but for the exception mentioned in that step, which can cause you to seriously consider divorce. Was it infidelity? Well there is life after forgiveness. There have been real-life examples of people who have overcome infidelity and their marriage has been even better than before. Was it the finances? Needless to say, there is always a way out of the financial difficulties a marriage will face. Above all, there must be a willingness to see the marriage last through eternity and a commitment that is beyond your understanding.
Comments
sleepyangel said
on 11/30/2009 Wonderful article, Meno! I love the comments from the other ehowers! :)
southernemma said
on 11/30/2009 Great advice! Marriage is supposed to be forever, in the good and bad times, and we all go through bad times! 5*
paul41982 said
on 2/28/2009 Amen Meno, it should be about truly understanding each other needs and expectations. Great advice and tips. Thanks for sharing. 5*
jenng said
on 2/4/2009 Thank you good info 5* and recommended
elyria said
on 2/2/2009 Wonderful article! When I was growing up my grandpa always would tell "if you want to do something stupid, wait 7 days. This rule does not apply to divorce. Never do it, work it out."