How to Be Emotionally Mature

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By Jerrie Dean
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Be Emotionally Mature

Marilyn vos Savant, who is considered the most intelligent woman in the world was asked, "You can become smarter by studying, but what can you do to become mature?" Believe me, she had an answer, "Don't take things personally." Here are some other steps you can take to help you become an emotionally mature grown up.

Difficulty: Easy

Instructions

Step 1

Don't take Things Personally -

Going through life and letting things roll off your back and ignoring the criticisms that surround you, will guarantee you an E Ticket ride to emotional maturity.
Step 2

Be Humble -

Don't brag, don't toot your horn, just be humble. Not looking to others for praise helps you to mature. If you think you do that anyway, then you may want to take a closer look at if you lean on your parents or spouse for pats on the back.
Step 3

Don't be Emotional -

The next time you feel like screaming back at your spouse, defending yourself from a coworker or doing a nasty gesture when someone cuts you off in traffic, don't do it. Shrug your shoulders instead. This little action will be your key to stopping your emotional responses. Practice not responding emotionally, calming down and thinking it through before you respond.
Step 4

Learning from your Mistakes -

So many people do the same thing over and over again and expect different results. You have heard it called the definition of insanity, but humor aside, it is a common thing for people to do. Don't be transfixed and habitually when you have a problem. Step back and see if it cannot be handled differently. Take the time to find a permanent solution. For example: Your dog begs for food, while you are eating. Instead of yelling at the dog repeatedly to lay down, instead, put the dog outside.
Step 5

Make your Own Decisions -

Whether you realize it or not, we tend to ask others for their opinions because we cannot make up our own minds. When we take the advise, then we can blame them if it doesn't turn out well. The next time you have a major decision, do the research on the subject on the internet, then make the decision for yourself. If you fail, see Step 1, don't take it personally.
Step 6

Like yourself -

Put a note on your bathroom mirror that has a nice message. Something like, I'm a very nice person, or I take care of my family. Look at it every morning and every night for a month and say out loud what it says, by the end of the month, you will believe what it says. Next month pick another affirmation.

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goodpeople said

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on 7/18/2009 thank you,will try and apply it.

lynnekaz said

on 10/14/2008 wow, this advice seems so simple and yet really difficult and if followed, I am sure life changing. I am glad that I happened upon this. Thank you.