Things You'll Need:
- Neutral, relax setting
- Humorous experience
- Loving touch or hug
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Step 1
Timing is key. Never think your child is too young to discuss sex. At 3-years old, I began to talk to my son about sex because he initiated the subject through rubbing his private area during bath time. That was my signal to talk to him bout sex in a manner appropriate for his age and understanding.
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Step 2
Positive Gesture. The gesture your child reads means everything. Be relaxed, be open and honest. And remember, sex is normal and a part of life. Negative or tense gestures can keep a child closed and this will not help to develop a healthy sex-talk relationship with your child.
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Step 3
Lighten Up. Do not approach your child with your religious beliefs in the beginning. Your first approach should be that sex is normal, fells good and can create life. Instilling good, religious morals is good and should be mentioned last. This lays a comfortable foundation in the beginning and something for your child to remember in the end.
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Step 4
Share. To let your child know you are human, share an age appropriate experience with a little humor. You don't have to go into great details, but Tell The Story and share the emotions from beginning to end. Were you nervous before your first kiss? How old were you? did you disobey your parents to see someone? Was it worth it - short term versus long term "worth it"? If you could do it over what would do differently? How has that experience affected you in other relationships/marriage? Share lessons you learned. By telling your story, you solicit your child to interact with questions.
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Step 5
Trust. When giving the responsible speech, tell your child you trust them to make thee right choice in the right moment that will benefit them in the long run. In addition, give studies, facts, valuable information that will have your child coming to you or intrigue them to look up statistics for themselves. Knowledge is power!
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Step 6
Let It Grow. Sex-talks should grow with you and your child's relationship. The sex-talk I had with my then 3-year old son changes as he grows into a young man. Sex and finance will be our continuous conversation as he travels through the stages of life. Why sex and finance? Children need to connect sex with finance because money is affected by our choices of sex. If children can connect the two, they will grow to make mature, responsible decisions instead of in the moment, feel good, gratification decisions resulting in strain for them, their families and country. Sex is good, but it is a great responsibility and nothing to be considered lightly.
Comments
kllmomof2 said
on 11/3/2008 What a great perspective on a sometimes uncomfortable topic!
Thims said
on 10/13/2008 In this day and age, I've learned more about sex from my 15 yr old than what I ever want to know for the rest of my entire life!! ;-) Good article, sage advice!