Things You'll Need:
- Self control - you're going to be in a highly emotional state after a breakup
- Patience - getting back together with your ex girlfriend won't happen overnight
-
Step 1
Use the “no contact rule” with your ex girlfriend for several weeks.
The no contact rule means you don’t initiate contact with your ex girlfriend.
However, you may be in a situation where you cannot avoid being in contact with your ex - you work together, you’re in the same college or school, or you have children together.
In those situations you remain courteous and polite as you would with any acquaintance or business colleague.
In particular, you don’t get into any arguments or talk about the break up or getting back together. -
Step 2
Create and follow a Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back Plan.
To get your ex girlfriend back, you need to have a plan. One that you will stick to and follow during the weeks after your breakup.
Many people who go through a breakup make mistakes that hurt their chances of getting back together with their ex girlfriend.
The fastest - and most effective - way to create a Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back Plan is to get relationship repair advice which outlines strategies and techniques you can use to help you get over a broken heart and re-attract your ex girlfriend.
Relationship repair advice is a critical step that is often overlooked or ignored when people break up.
It will tell you what to do and what to say in various situations you will encounter during the breakup - from what to do if your ex girlfriend is seeing someone else to what to say if your ex girlfriend contacts you. -
Step 3
Carry on with your life.
While a breakup is a huge blow to you emotionally, one of the most effective ways to get over a broken heart is to keep yourself busy.
That means getting out and socializing with your friends or family. Or playing sports. Or doing your favorite hobby. Or learning and experiencing something new. -
Step 4
Build your self confidence. Increase your self esteem. Make yourself more attractive.
It might mean getting a new haircut or hairstyle. It might mean working out or exercising.
It might mean losing a few pounds. It might mean getting a new wardrobe.
But do things to boost your confidence so you become more attractive to other people, including your ex girlfriend. -
Step 5
Date other women.
It seems counter-intuitive to do this - especially when you have feelings for your ex girlfriend.
But dating other women does two things: It makes your ex aware that you’re okay about the breakup and you’re not desperate or needy to have your ex girlfriend in your life.
As well, dating other women builds your confidence and gets your mind off the breakup. -
Step 6
Ask your ex girlfriend out after the no contact period has finished.
Keep your meeting casual. This is the time to reconnect and see if things can progress beyond a friendship.
In effect, you’re starting over again in your relationship.
Remember, you’re going to have to re-attract your ex girlfriend.
Follow this 6-step guide - including developing a Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back Plan - and you’ll increase your chances of getting back together with your ex girlfriend.
Comments
AshleyWyoming said
on 11/24/2008 I think that the dating another woman thing would just cross the line- If my ex boyfriend were to do that I would tell him to kick rocks! MEN, DON'T try that. The way most women see it is that if he's going to start seeing other women then obviously he isn't that into me, and when you try to come back to re connect she is going to think in her head, oh it must not of worked out with his new lady and now he's desperate.