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Step 1
Get educated. Learn about the various causes of infertility including your specific issue. Ask your doctor for detailed personal information as well as book recommendations for further research. Learning about infertility may help decrease your anxiety and empower you to take control of your situation. Let knowledge be a powerful tool in your fight.
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Step 2
Express yourself. Share true feelings about your infertility issues with trusted family and friends. Disclose information in the amount and time frame that makes you feel most comfortable. For example, your entire family doesn’t have to know every detail of your ordeal or status. You may choose to share more with your oldest sister because you feel she will listen more than other family members. Don’t feel obligated to make your personal information common knowledge.
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Step 3
Join a support group. While family support can be uplifting, it can also be helpful to communicate with others that have personally experienced infertility issues. Find support groups in your area by asking your doctor or insurance provider for recommendations. Read and respond to online infertility message boards to give strength to and gain strength from others. You may have feelings of jealousy or inadequacy that you don’t feel comfortable sharing with a family member or friend.
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Step 4
Take a mental vacation. Escape from constant conversations about infertility by engaging in hobbies or other creative outlets. For example, take dancing or painting lessons to help release pent up frustrations. Focus your attention on more positive aspects of your life to help lift your spirits. Ask your significant other to remind you to think positive thoughts. Keep your romantic relationship alive by continuing to have date nights.
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Step 5
Weigh your options. Consider any infertility treatment options you may have available. Discuss alternatives like in-vitro fertilization (IVF) or the use of a surrogate mother with your doctor and significant other. Determine financial constraints and family planning desires. Get a second opinion from a qualified fertility specialist before making major decisions.











