How to Settle a Dispute Before It Becomes a Legal Matter

How many times have you found yourself involved in a situation which quickly become confrontational? Did you or the other person bring up the possibility of legal action?It's a very uncomfortable situation for everyone involved. Both parties believe their position is the "right" one; both parties believe the other person is wrong. Witness all the reality shows on television, such as "Judge Judy" or "The People's Court."There are remedies that can help you stay out of court. Read this article to decide which one(s) may work for you.

Instructions

1. Stay as calm as you can. Figure out your situation as quickly and clearly as you can. Find a way of putting your side of the issue into words. State your position without swearing or threatening physical violence. As you have your say, choose your words carefully. Try to use words that will not make the situation even more heated.

2. Listen as calmly and politely as you can. Remember to treat your adversary as you want to be treated. Take this time to get a firmer grip on your feelings; whatever you do, do not allow your opponent's words to make you angry all over again. Set up a situation where you and your adversary can engage in give and take.

3. Seek out legal advice. Visit your local library and look for books that may pertain to your situation. If necessary, call an attorney and ask for a free consultation regarding your situation and your rights. Ask for ways to arrive at a settlement of your dispute so that it doesn't wind up in court as a lawsuit.

4. Contact your adversary and ask for a meeting in a neutral place. Take a friend who can act as a mediator to keep your meeting from becoming too heated. Discuss what you have learned from your studies and questions. Listen calmly and courteously to what your adversary has learned.

5. Look for common ground upon which you and your opponent can agree and look for a way to settle your dispute. If it takes several hours or more than one meeting, commit to that. Your goal is to avoid having your dispute become a legal matter. Persuade your adversary to make the same commitment for the same reason.

Tips & Warnings

• If it becomes necessary, take a lawyer with you to your meeting(s) with your opponent.

• Do everything you can to prevent your situation from becoming physical or ending up in court.

• Do not threaten legal action or arrest every time you meet or encounter your opponent. Your goal is to prevent a lawsuit.

• Do not bury your head in the sand and pretend your situation will "just go away." It won't.